I (bearded, etc.) certainly go into ballroom position rather than a symmetrical position when I'm dancing the lady's part, even when a male partner is aiming for symmetrical position (if he's not too insistent about it). And I tend to resist the violent dancing some men think they get to do when they partner with a man--partly because I generally don't like it, but also because I don't want to be danced with differently because I'm a guy.
--Read Weaver Jamaica Plain, MA http://lcfd.org On Jan 4, 2013, at 5:56 PM, Maia McCormick wrote: > > Another thought on flourishes, that relates to my first post on the topic > and some of the questions that have been going around: I realized writing > another post that I first started flourishing others, and that I pride > myself on my leading/flourishing ability to such a large extent, because > it's a way of compensating for my sex when it comes to leading. Part of me > feels that to be an impressive and good partner, I should have that little > extra bit of flash--in a sense, to prove that I have a reason for leading, > and a *right* to, instead of following like women ought. Of course, that's > only part of it, but I was really interested in this thought when it > occurred to me. Maybe equalizing gender roles would, to a small extent, > lessen their applicability (i.e., the degree of lead/follow dynamic) in the > first place? Has anyone else experienced or seen this sort of thought > pattern before?
