Wow Sam it sounds like you have a really strong-willed child. And it sounds like you're doing really well with the situation - although I bet there are days when it feels overwhelming! Sounds like the best thing to do is not to care too much about her eating - if she's hungry, she will eat. Is she still growing and is otherwise healthy? But what do I know - I just have 2 boys and the older one (2 1/2) eats as much as an adult does! :-) The younger one is still breastfed... hope he doesn't go through this separation anxiety when I wean him! Are there any other female caregivers in her life? It might be interesting to see how she responds to someone completely new - like if you went out for an hour in the evening and she had a different babysitter... Is Katy's Dad around? How does she respond to male caregivers? All the best & sending strength! :-) Lisa
>From: Samantha Morris <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Reply-To: "canada" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >To: "canada" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Subject: [canada] RE: who's who >Date: Wed, 8 Sep 2004 14:16:07 -0700 > >Actually I did think about that. She wants to go and get some small >hangers >for her Barbie clothes and she also wants a Spiderman camera. I told her I >needed to see some improvement in her behavior (ie- no throwing up at >Lori's) and then she could get one of them. She seems to forget it though >when its the morning and we are on our way to Lori's. I try to keep her >mind of it while we are going. Maybe if she could actually see the stuff >she might try harder. We think she has trained her brain so much now that >her tummy reacts subconsciously now. We are trying to reprogram her. > >My psychologist suggested spending more one on one quality time with her >before bed. It may be a delayed separation anxiety thing. She never >really >did have that so maybe it is. She nursed until she was 2. All these >things >have kind of come up since she turned 2. > >The other thing she suggested was visualization. At night after her story >I >turn out the light and try to get her to relax. We take deep breaths and I >walk her through relaxing all her body parts (not easy with a 3 year old >let >me tell you). Then we go on an adventure. In the adventure she see's >herself in a few months. This Katy is very strong and healthy. She never >has an owie tummy etc etc. What we are trying to do is get the >subconscious >mind to reprogram itself. If you tell it this over and over it eventually >will sink in. I've got nothing to loose, but who knows if it will work. >She also suggested massage. Feet are a good thing to massage as they have >many acupressure points that work the core body. I have tried this too. >Its only been about 4 days and on Tuesday when she went she didn't thow up >=-) Maybe it will work. Tomorrow is a Lori day, so wish me luck.... > >Sam > >-----Original Message----- >From: Mel and Tim Golobar [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] >Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2004 1:53 PM >To: canada >Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > > >So Sam, she is only doing this when she has to do something she doesn't >want >to do? So you have tried giving rewards? If food is the issue, maybe try >going to the dollar store, and picking a few little toys she will enjoy , >and telling her that if she has a day without getting sick and going to >Lori's with no argument she will get to choose a toy when she gets home! >Sometimes it will feel like you are giving rewards all the time. I have >not >had to deal with an issue like that either, many other ones but not that >yet! Good luck! >----- Original Message ----- >From: "Samantha Morris" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >To: "canada" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2004 10:44 AM >Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > > > > Hi Julia, > > > > I could write a book about all the issues we are having with her. I've > > actually been seeing a councilor since some of these issues are too big >for > > me to handle. > > > > The biggest one we have right now is her morning ritual with going to > > daycare. She has been going to the same daycare (in home daycare where >she > > is part time and another boy of 3 goes part time too). This lady also >has > > two boys of her own (7 and 5). Every morning she says "Where and I >going > > today". If its a Lori day she complains and then says "Owie tummy". >She > > gags sometimes etc. Last week she was at Lori's 5 days and 4 of those 5 > > days she threw up first thing when she got there basically. Once she's > > there she is fine and when we go to pick her up she doesn't want to >leave. > > > > Katy is a VERY picky eater and would rather not eat if she had the >choice! > > Lori has had the power to get food into Katy from day one. Well we >think > > this is what the issue is. She always says to me "Tell Lori I don't >have >to > > eat anything". I tell her she doesn't have to eat, but what she doesn't >eat > > for lunch she will have to eat for dinner. There will be no treats if >she > > doesn't eat her lunch. etc etc. Twice last week she tested this and I >made > > her eat her lunch for dinner. She has such mind control now that she >can > > make herself throw up very easily. > > > > I have no doubt about Lori. Katy pulls stunts and plays me over my >husband > > constantly. Lori and I are the dominant females in her life and she is > > trying to control us. I can't let her win or I'll never have control >over > > her. We are working on these things slowly. > > > > Eating and daycare are the biggest issues right now. This control with >Lori > > comes and goes. Its funny we just think we have it licked and it >surfaces > > again. > > > > Sorry you asked? =-) > > > > Sam > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Julia Dickinson [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2004 10:00 AM > > To: canada > > Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > > > > > > Sam, what sort of challenges? :-) > > We haven't taken Aden out for Halloween but this year he seems keen to >go, > > so I guess I will get a costume for him. Not sure what. He suggested a > > basketball player! LOL I think something warm would be good, more often >than > > not it's snowing on Halloween. Anyone else taking little ones out? >Julia > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: Samantha Morris <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > Date: Wednesday, September 8, 2004 10:47 am > > Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > > > > > Hi Melanie, > > > > > > I'm Sam from Vancouver, BC. We have a daughter Katy who turned 3 > > > at the end > > > of April. 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