Billy, This is for Ernie - right?
// Lennart On Thu, Apr 15, 2010 at 2:59 PM, <[email protected]> wrote: > > > *Times of India* > Ten kissing commandmentsCHARU AMAR, Apr 16, 2010 > > "Our date was extremely romantic, until I offered to seal the night with > a > kiss<http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/relationships/man-woman/Ten-kissing-commandments/articleshow/4118073.cms?flstry=1#>, > which unexpectedly turned out to be quite awkward. While, I was gravely > ashamed, she never came back," shares 23-year-old, Rishi Gulati (name > changed on request), a sad victim of a kissing-faux-pas. > > Well, the misfortune of a bad kiss can fall upon any of us. Consider > yourself lucky if your kiss left your > partner<http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/relationships/man-woman/Ten-kissing-commandments/articleshow/4118073.cms?flstry=1#>craving > for more. And keep your fingers tightly crossed for no one plans a > kissing blunder, it simply happens! And mind it, you are hardly left with > anything to mend the embarrassment caused by a 'dud kiss.' If a perfect kiss > can register success in your > relationship<http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/relationships/man-woman/Ten-kissing-commandments/articleshow/4118073.cms?flstry=1#>, > a kissing bummer is good enough to bring your love journey to a dead end > even before it starts. > > Follow our '10 commandments of perfect kissing' and you'll never be tagged > as a 'poor kisser'... > > 1. Thou shall not be a stinking fish > Nothing can kill a kiss like foul breadth. So, the first commandment keeps > you off kissing, if your mouth is stinking due to hygiene issues, food, > tobacco or excessive smoking. If you don't want your partner to remember the > kiss for all the wrong reasons, try to look out for solutions. Dr. Kamal > Bisht, a general physician suggests, "Begin by brushing your teeth before > you go out on a date, irrespective of the time. Cleaning your tongue is also > important as it removes bacteria. Avoid kissing if you have just had smelly > food products like garlic, onions etc. Keep a breath spray handy and use it > periodically throughout the day." Last but not the least, if you are a > smoker, the pleasure of smooching your partner can be your motivation to > kick the butt! > > 2. Thou shall open your mouth with care > "My girlfriend has this habit of opening her mouth very little while > kissing, which does not allow me to enjoy a passionate kiss to the fullest," > avers Rajdeep Bhawmik, a Delhi-based architect. > > While, there's no accurate rule for opening the mouth, it's generally seen > that a deep kiss using tongue is a huge turn on. Equally terrifying are > gulpers who open their mouth wide open while kissing, ready to swallow their > partner. The trick is to keep one's lips lose enough to let the lips of both > the partners glide smoothly over each other making it a yummy kiss. Also, > “start with a lip-to-lip kiss and gradually taste the depths of pleasure," > suggests sex expert, Dr. Rajan. > > 3. Thou shall not be a dead dud > "For both men and women, responsiveness is the chief factor that makes for > a better kisser," says author William Cane in his book, The Art of Kissing > Book of Question and Answers . So, rather than pouncing upon your > partner's mouth, try and figure out the styles and movements that your > partner enjoys. Try to figure out his/her likes and dislikes and adapt your > technique accordingly. > > Going with the other partner's rhythm is crucial. Don't expect your beau to > do all the work while you enjoy his kissing moves. "My girlfriend is a > hesitant kisser. She doesn't even move her head; forget about getting > playful with her tongue and lips. It's just like I'm trying to find pleasure > with a stiff stick," reveals Chandan Gupta, a 20-year-old college student. > > 4. Thou shall be a learner > No body is a born kisser. So, if you are an amateur kisser, who is > apprehensive about locking lips, just follow your partner and the rest will > fall into place, the way it happened with Jayati and Mayank. "During the > initial days of our courtship, my girlfriend Jayanti was quite clueless > about kissing, which was a big turn-off for me. But soon she realised her > awkwardness and made a smart move. She simply started copying my style and > now she can beat me in a passionate kiss," tells Mayank Taneja, a > Mumbai-based PR professional. > Remember kissing is all about adapting and learning. > > 5. Thou shall use your hands appropriately > Agreed, that using hands results in elevating levels of > passion<http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/relationships/man-woman/Ten-kissing-commandments/articleshow/4118073.cms?flstry=1#>. > But do not pull his hair or grab her waist as if she'll run if you leave. > Kissing is about imparting pleasure rather than inflicting pain. “Keep your > hand movements limited to sensual and soft strokes on your lover's arms, > back, neck, waist and hair or simply cup the face,” suggests Cane. Don’t get > too aggressive in the name of showing wild passion. "My first boyfriend > almost gave me bruises every time we kissed. Pinching and grabbing me gave > him a sense of high, but I failed to match up with his wild passion and we > broke up after a few dates and > kisses<http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/relationships/man-woman/Ten-kissing-commandments/articleshow/4118073.cms?flstry=1#>," > relates Madhurima Goel, a 19-year-old college student. > > 6. Thou shall not let your tongue go loose > You don't have to gag your partner by shoving off your tongue deep down > into his/her mouth. Take it easy. The kissing rule for tongue says –less is > more! Let the tip of your tongue perform the magic with subtle and gentle > strokes. You can use your tongue for exploring, but that doesn't allow you > to reach between your partner's teeth –as it can be a big turnoff. > "Remember, slower the tongue movements, hotter is the passion," says Dr. > Shivi Jaggi. > > 7. Thou shall not give me a saliva bath > Wet kisses undoubtedly work when it comes to getting into some raunchy > action, but that doesn't give you the liberty to go lap,lap,lap all over > your partner's face. "My girl is a passionate kisser. But, the only problem > with her is that her kisses are really wet. She licks my chin, cheeks, > forehead etc, which becomes quite messy for me," complains Jatin Sharma, a > 24-year-old, management student. So, slobbery is not welcomed while kissing. > > > 8. Thou shall not have sex on your mind > It is not necessary for a kiss to end in some hot action between the > sheets. Your kiss shouldn't give away the hint that you are getting > desperate to hit the bed. "Kissing brings people close physically and > emotionally. And this closeness satisfies a deep emotional need for > connecting with your partner," explains Cane. > So, while you are kissing, be sensitive to your partner's need. He/she may > or may not be ready for sex immediately. Don't use a kiss as a means to > reach a sexual climax. Let your kiss be romantic rather than plain sexual. > "I can still remember my first kiss, though for unpleasant things. The way > the guy was busy groping me, gave clear clues that he wanted to have sex > with me on our first > date<http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/relationships/man-woman/Ten-kissing-commandments/articleshow/4118073.cms?flstry=1#>itself > and I wasn't ready. And soon after that date, within no time I made > up my mind to never meet him again." > > Another way to keep your first kiss plain romantic, rather than hard core > sexual can be to keep your hand-work limited to the non-erotic zones like > the neck, arms, back waist etc., rather than reaching out to the erotic > zones. Though, imagination and experimentation can be your yardstick if both > of you are ready and enjoying. > > 9. Though shall not stare while kissing > You might be curious; you might feel like watching your partner taking > pleasure in the act, but continuously staring at him/her while kissing is a > big no no! Whenever a person is enjoying something to the hilt, their eyes > automatically shut. Closing the eyes is an autonomous stimulus to pleasure. > So, kissing is no exception to this rule and people tend to close their > eyes. “Also, the sight of your partner almost eating you might not look very > beautiful if you watch it continuously, though there's nothing wrong in > getting a peep every now and then," suggests Dr. Rajan. > > 10. Thou shall be confident of your kiss > Be it a plain pucker or a passionate lip lock, not just the initiator, but > even the recipient ought to be confident. Remember, to go with the flow and > you'll do fine. When passion reaches its zenith, no guide-book or tips > remain in one's mind. So, just be yourself and let the warmth of your lips > take over. "Be it approaching your lover for a kiss or accepting his > proposal, both should be utmost confident. Jitters may spoil the mood, > irrespective of who is getting them," explains Dr. Jaggi. > > _______________________________________________ > Centroids mailing list: [email protected] > http://radicalcentrism.com/mailman/listinfo/centroids_radicalcentrism.com > Archives at > http://radicalcentrism.org/pipermail/centroids_radicalcentrism.com/ >
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