> -----Original Message----- > From: Deanna Schneider [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > Sent: Monday, March 21, 2005 1:41 PM > To: CF-Community > Subject: Re: You know it's been a tough day at kindergarten when ... > > Yah, it's Skinner-esque, and like I said, I won't gaurantee that I'll > never swat him. But, I do hope that if I do it's not out of anger or > frustration - which I think is how most people use physical > punishment. I mean, I'd never hit my husband just because I'm mad at > him. Why would I hit my child?
For me this gets into the age things as well. You never hit your husband because (I'm guessing) you can reason and talk with him. You have a clear line of communication. You can explain your issue with him and he can understand it. With a two-year old that option isn't available and a swat is an effective way to communicate displeasure. My daughter (age two) sometimes gets a swat but my son (age six) hasn't for at least two years. Basically physical punishment can be useful to modify behavior but only when a more meaningful channel of communication isn't available. As soon as that other channel opens up it gets pushed way down the list of effectiveness. Conditioning the child to associate spankings with something else (like counting or the belt) is an improvement on the communication channel as well and is a good stopgap measure until you can reason with them. Jim Davis ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Find out how CFTicket can increase your company's customer support efficiency by 100% http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=49 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:151097 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
