this is kinda true. In my opinion. It's been a good while since anybody got smacked at my house.
Dana On Mon, 21 Mar 2005 14:01:28 -0500, Jim Davis <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Deanna Schneider [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Sent: Monday, March 21, 2005 1:41 PM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: Re: You know it's been a tough day at kindergarten when ... > > > > Yah, it's Skinner-esque, and like I said, I won't gaurantee that I'll > > never swat him. But, I do hope that if I do it's not out of anger or > > frustration - which I think is how most people use physical > > punishment. I mean, I'd never hit my husband just because I'm mad at > > him. Why would I hit my child? > > For me this gets into the age things as well. > > You never hit your husband because (I'm guessing) you can reason and talk > with him. You have a clear line of communication. You can explain your > issue with him and he can understand it. > > With a two-year old that option isn't available and a swat is an effective > way to communicate displeasure. My daughter (age two) sometimes gets a swat > but my son (age six) hasn't for at least two years. > > Basically physical punishment can be useful to modify behavior but only when > a more meaningful channel of communication isn't available. As soon as that > other channel opens up it gets pushed way down the list of effectiveness. > > Conditioning the child to associate spankings with something else (like > counting or the belt) is an improvement on the communication channel as well > and is a good stopgap measure until you can reason with them. > > Jim Davis > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Get the mailserver that powers this list at http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=17 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:151099 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
