Hey Gruss I think you are belittling a serious problem. Not being very nice to your wife is not at all on the same level as breaking her arm or giving her a black eye. Can I prove Michael Schiavo did this? No. Does the fact that I can't prove it mean he didn't? No. Does my suspicion that he did amount to anything more than a guess? No. Do I think it's an accurate guess? Yes.
And you know what? If there were an "I hate this thread" thing here, I'd click it too. We are not going to change each other's minds, so let's drop it. I am not going to be around email much for the next couple of days anyway. Dana On Apr 9, 2005 9:02 AM, Gruss Gott <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Dana wrote: > > OK so. NOW I find a transcript. Check out Jackie Rhodes, who says > > Michael was abusive, and Terri was crying the day before her collapse, > > apparently because Michael was furious she got her hair done. > > > > Well, you're right in that I probably won't change my mind for the > following reasons: > > 1.) I think you're innocent until proven guilty which is to say he > has a presumption of innocence from me. > > 2.) I believe in guardians so I think unless you can disqualify him, > he speaks as if he were her. > > 3.) His care for her, and tenacity for a position, show me that he > loved her and has a clear idea of what they, as a couple, would have > wanted. > > 4.) There were 3 court appointed guardians and years of trial that all > him to be acting in good faith. > > 5.) Anecdotal evidence of fights or whatever proves nothing. My wife > an I have fights all of the time and there's times when, frankly, I'm > not very nice. I'm sure I've displaced anger onto all kinds of minor > events and I know she's been upset plenty. But then that swings both > ways. > > Marriage is all about control! It's 2 people trying to heal each > other's emotional wounds and find an equilibrium with their > preferences, habits, and dreams. To think that's no going to cause > some drama is nuts - at least with my personality! > > I would change my mind if there was a pattern of medical treatment due > to beatings, or if her friends said she was constantly fearful to > leave the house - something like that. > > In fact, the claim that she was leaving or moving out mostly says she > probably wasn't abused. In the end I find no pattern of facts to show > that he was any more abusive that any other human in a marriage. > > Maybe that's the difference - you'll hoist the abuse flag at the > slightest suggestion whereas I consider "marriage" to mean a constant > low level of abuse :) > > "Hold on ... what honey? Clean the garage? But I'm checking email. > Clean it now or you're going to egg my car? ok, ok. Jeez, you don't > have to get abusive." > > Put another way, (in the voice of droopy) "yes, dear". > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Discover CFTicket - The leading ColdFusion Help Desk and Trouble Ticket application http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=48 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:153387 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
