> 30K in the hole? You're lucky. Try digging out of > $130,000 in student loans all because our lovely > government didn't consider my wife to be independent > until the age of 24 despite supporting herself > since age 18; hence NO assistance for college. > Now she is in a wonderful profession as a teacher > and loving it, only to realize 75% of her paycheck > goes to Sallie Mae.
Not trying to compare myself to anyone else, of course, just saying... We all deal with the consequences of our choices one way or another, and for myself, having made some stupid choices early on has had some very unfortunate consequences in the now that basically prevent me having a life of my own for a while as long as I plan to do something about my situation rather than simply allow circumstances to dictate the course of my life while I whine about how unfair it is. Not that I don't occasionally do the whining. :) But I like to think that I back it up with some kind of action toward a solution more often than not. > Ike, move up here (DC Metro area)... I could help > you land a CF job making great money and you might > even like the work! I've thought about it... Of course, nothing happens overnight, and right now I don't have any cash to put toward a move... Without being able to save up the only way I'd be able to make that move is if I got financial help from someone else and right now there's not really anyone who can help me with that financially (except my family who probably could -- i'm not sure -- but I know they definately won't. If I lost my job spontaneously and had a signed contract for a job with a company in DC my grandmother would help me some, but not much -- enough for gas probably.) To be fair, I'm finally in a place where I can start to save some cash now in spite of everything if I don't have to spend it to repair my teeth or my car or my workstation as is usually the case when I have any amount of cash available. If I'm able to put some cash asside, I'll probably put some more serious consideration into moving to DC in spite of the fact that it would take me even further away from my kids who are in Dallas. But it's not an easy decision in any event. I'm actually working for a company currently where I feel like my boss and my coworkers genuinely care about my well-being... some of them anyway... maybe even most of them... My immediate supervisor is even supportive of my community efforts (he congratulated me for being invited to speak at the Frameworks conference with what seemed to be genuine enthusiasm). It's a difficult thing to find and and so I'm a bit frustrated between my loyalty, my genuine need to generate more income, my desire to work independently (selling my own apps) and my desire to be near my children. I will however definately keep your offer to help in mind. :) s. isaac dealey 954.522.6080 new epoch : isn't it time for a change? add features without fixtures with the onTap open source framework http://www.fusiontap.com http://coldfusion.sys-con.com/author/4806Dealey.htm ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Find out how CFTicket can increase your company's customer support efficiency by 100% http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=49 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:172398 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
