> Ever stop and think that this pliable, non-objective view > you seem to have might be at least partially responsible > for all the drama and problems you seem to attract.
Yep, thought about it, examined it, and rejected it. I have firm opinions about things. I as an individual, although I change my mind about things from time to time, do form complete opinions. Just look back over my contributions to various threads on the HoF lists. Even in this thread, my opinion on this subject is firm because it's my opinion, because I've considered the evidence that's available to me and I've decided where I stand on the issue, which is entirely different from being "on the fence" or "wishy washy" about the subject. Could certain of my opinions be partly responsible for problems I've had in the past or possibly continue to have now? Yes. For one thing, Tiff and I put up a friend in our apartment recently with the hopes that she'd changed since our last experience with her several years ago. She's gone now, and we know beyond the shadow of a doubt that she's not changed. She even got a second chance -- the gov't let her change her name and get a new SSN under the belief that a former spouse was stalking her (at least that's the story), and we hoped maybe when she got her second chance that she'd have wised up and realized that she should probably take that opportunity to change the habbits that lead her to being in a bad way. Since she left, we discovered three separate "pay day loan" documents for loans we know she doesn't plan to pay back, letters about bounced checks, she owes a couple hundred dollars to a boyfriend she picked up in the couple months she was here, etc. When she came my stipulations were a) we're not paying for her transportation b) we're not paying for her animals and c) she'll contribute to food. All three of those conditions were met, and I will never let her stay with me again. Although it sucked it was not as dreadful as it had been the last time because I changed in interst of my own self-preservation. I continue to change, as I'm not likely to give anyone else the 2nd chance I gave her. So I do learn from my mistakes. At the same time I seem to have more random-chance negative events occur in my life as compared to the average person. Things that are at best marginally within my control. It can't be quantified, I just know that most of my friends don't seem to have as many left-field events. If I go to buy a car for example, and someone else does the same thing, we both go through the same selection process, get the same make and model car, with the same mileage, from the same dealership, historical analysis will show that my car will have twice as many mechanical failures, given the same amount of maintenance. So I change what I can, accept what I can't, and do my damnedest to distinguish between them. A person just can't see everything coming. > I mean, I know the causes of most of my problems, me. > I'm doing something about that. Same here. s. isaac dealey 434.293.6201 new epoch : isn't it time for a change? add features without fixtures with the onTap open source framework http://www.fusiontap.com http://coldfusion.sys-con.com/author/4806Dealey.htm ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:203045 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
