The biggest problem is that when she is with him she has a drug problem herself. She apparently is now having seizures from her crack/methamphetamine usage but thinks its nothing.
She has left before, left everything, including the kids, to go get straight. She missed the kids too much and came back Sadly, she may DIE before she leaves this guy. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Erika L. Walker-Arnold" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Saturday, April 06, 2002 1:52 PM Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > Having been in a very, very long (8 years), good/bad relationship with a man > who has a gambling problem, that codependency thing .... it's a hard thing > to shake. > > We know the man is a loser...or should I say, not right for us, but we love > them. We think they need us, because nothing else is right in their lives > .. only to find out, we were not anywhere close to the top of their > priority list, no matter how much they said we were. > > He was never mean to me. Helped with the dishes, the laundry, did the > shopping, but in the end, because of gambling, everything disintegrated. I > ended up supporting the both of us. > > It took me two years to break up with him, because it killed me to hurt him, > but in the end it was only hurting me, but I have to say, I would do it all > over again, because the path I took led me to Phil, the choices I made, gave > me the opportunity to be where I am today. We had tons of great times, but > I'll never forget the lessons I learned. > > She may, someday, see that she is in a dead-end road, and hopefully, she > will have learned something. > > Erika > ------------------------------------------------------------ > > >>|-----Original Message----- > >>|From: Beth Fleischer [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > >>| > >>|Because she is a pitiful codependent freak. > >>| > >>|----- Original Message ----- > >>|From: "Howard Owens" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >>|To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >>|Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 9:38 PM > >>|Subject: RE: Egypt: Land of the Gods > >>| > >>| > >>|> Why does she stay with this loser? > >>|> > >>|> One of the discussions my wife and I have all the time -- > >>|cause it drives > >>|> her up the wall -- is women who make bad choices in > >>|boyfriends/husbands. > >>|> She has a couple of friends who have been in one bad relationship after > >>|> another. When she tells them they should find a nice stable guy, > >>|employed, > >>|> a little nerdy, not living the fast life, they say, "Oh, a guy > >>|like that > >>|> wouldn't be enough of a challenge; he wouldn't be interesting enough." > >>|Some > >>|> women want it all -- a guy who is wild, carefree, dangerous, > >>|but doesn't > >>|> sleep around or abuse them or use them. Good luck finding that guy. > >>|> > >>|> H. > >>|> > >>|> > >>|> -----Original Message----- > >>|> From: Beth F [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > >>|> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 1:55 PM > >>|> To: CF-Community > >>|> Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > >>|> > >>|> > >>|> I forgot the kicker- he spends all her money on drugs too > >>|> > >>|> > >>|> ----- Original Message ----- > >>|> From: "Larry C. Lyons" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >>|> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >>|> Sent: Friday, April 05, 2002 11:54 AM > >>|> Subject: Re: Egypt: Land of the Gods > >>|> > >>|> > >>|> > Seems to me that friend's husband is thinking he has a > >>|pretty good deal, > >>|> > she supports him, cleans up after him, etc. It sounds like he has a > >>|> servant > >>|> > rather than a wife. > >>|> > > >>|> > larry > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>|> > At 09:46 AM 4/5/02 -0900, you wrote: > >>|> > > > Wait a minute. What about when a woman marries a man > >>|who tells her > >>|> that > >>|> > >it is her responsibility to cook, clean, etc.? Isn't her choice to > >>|marry > >>|> a > >>|> > >man like that the same as choosing it herself? Do you take > >>|issue with > >>|> what > >>|> > >she's being told to do or the fact that she's being told to do > >>|anything? > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > >Well as far as my relationships go, I personally don't > >>|think partners > >>|> should > >>|> > >TELL each other to do anything - they ask. > >>|> > > > >>|> > >If both the woman and the man feel that its her job to do all the > >>|cooking > >>|> > >and cleaning then its her choice. > >>|> > > > >>|> > >But i have a friend who is married to a guy who is jobless. > >>|He stays at > >>|> home > >>|> > >with a four year old but refuses to do any cooking, > >>|cleaning or laundry > >>|> or > >>|> > >shopping.... She asked him to pitch in and he said "What am I, the > >>|> maid?" > >>|> > > > >>|> > >So he feels its her job to do all of the working, cleaning, > >>|cooking and > >>|> > >laundry because he isnt' the maid (i.e. because he isn't female). > >>|Thats > >>|> > >bullshit, plain and simple. > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > >>|> > >>|> > >>| > ______________________________________________________________________ This list and all House of Fusion resources hosted by CFHosting.com. The place for dependable ColdFusion Hosting. Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
