Actually, I think the issue with the internet is that its so anonymous that people feel free to lie their asses off.
----- Original Message ----- From: "Larry Lyons" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 7:19 AM Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > The real big problem with it is that in terms of meeting people in bars and > so on, you have a lot of social cues and nuances that at least give you some > idea of the person. Chat rooms, emails etc don't have those cues. So there's > a greater chance of making bad judgments regarding the person. I expect as > social behavior evolves for the web we'll start seeing the equivalent of > those same nuances and cues. > > larry > > -- > Larry C. Lyons > ColdFusion/Web Developer > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > EBStor.com > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > tel: (703) 393-7930 > fax: (703) 393-2659 > Web: http://www.ebstor.com > http://www.pacel.com > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > -- > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Dan Phillips [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 11:13 AM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > I think the net can deffinately provide a way for people to > > meet others. One > > thing the net offers over a bar setting is that you can't > > actually see the > > other person. That gives people a certain courage to be very > > open and honest > > (sometimes too honest.) I'm sure we all know someone who > > knows someone who > > met online and started out innocently but soon were in over their head > > before they knew it. > > > > Dave Barry has a great story about this in his CyberSpace book. > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Kevin Schmidt [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 11:06 AM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > For once I think I agree with Larry :) The internet is only a tool. > > It's like saying that the bar is the equivalent of the internet. Yes > > you can pick up women on the internet just like you can at > > the bar. But > > if you are picking up women on the internet or at the bar, > > that signals > > a greater underlying problem. > > > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 10:03 AM > > To: CF-Community > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > My point exactly Erika, if it were not the net, or EverQuest > > or politics > > or > > whatever, it would be something else. If the marriage is in trouble, > > then > > its not the internet or whatever, its the people involved. The web or > > EverQuest or what have you is only an excuse. The time spent on those > > decrease as the other problems are resolved. > > > > larry > > > > -- > > Larry C. Lyons > > ColdFusion/Web Developer > > Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > > EBStor.com > > 8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > > Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > > tel: (703) 393-7930 > > fax: (703) 393-2659 > > Web: http://www.ebstor.com > > http://www.pacel.com > > email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > > -- > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > From: Erika L. Walker-Arnold [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 10:55 AM > > > To: CF-Community > > > Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > > > > > > > Actually, now that I've had time to think about it ... any > > > "hobby" can be > > > deemed a marriage wrecker if "abused". > > > > > > A fanatical love for cars, stamps, soccer, sitting in a pub, > > > you name it ... > > > I'm sure there are people who have taken their > > > marriage/relationships to the > > > edge and gone by putting too much time into other > > activities, and not > > > spending enough time with spouses/partners/children. > > > > > > Why, even too much work can kill a relationship. > > > > > > You have to now when to call it quits. When to sit on on the > > > couch, snuggle, > > > talk, spend quality time together. > > > > > > I think it all comes down to will power and time management. > > > As well as what > > > are your priorities in life. > > > Some people can juggle it all! > > > > > > BUT! Also, be aware, that sometime, some relationships cannot > > > be saved, and > > > it is not anyone's fault, some people do grow out of each other, for > > > whatever reasons. > > > > > > Erika > > > with a K > > > ------------------------------------------------------------ > > > > > > >>|-----Original Message----- > > > >>|From: Larry Lyons [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > >>|Sent: 16 April 2002 15:48 > > > >>|To: CF-Community > > > >>|Subject: RE: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > >>| > > > >>| > > > >>|After reading the article, it seemed rather self-serving, > > > >>|perhaps to drum up > > > >>|support for that counseling service? > > > >>| > > > >>|I am very skeptical of these so-called articles there's > > > typically more > > > >>|anecdote than data. I'm still waiting for a decent study to be > > > >>|done on the > > > >>|issue, perhaps something like relating divorce rates with > > > >>|internet usage and > > > >>|type of internet access (broadband vs. dialup; mainly at > > > >>|work/school or at > > > >>|home etc). Otherwise its just hearsay. > > > >>| > > > >>|larry > > > >>| > > > >>|-- > > > >>|Larry C. Lyons > > > >>|ColdFusion/Web Developer > > > >>|Certified Advanced ColdFusion 5 Developer > > > >>|EBStor.com > > > >>|8870 Rixlew Lane, Suite 204 > > > >>|Manassas, Virginia 20109-3795 > > > >>|tel: (703) 393-7930 > > > >>|fax: (703) 393-2659 > > > >>|Web: http://www.ebstor.com > > > >>| http://www.pacel.com > > > >>|email: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > >>|Chaos, panic, and disorder - my work here is done. > > > >>|-- > > > >>| > > > >>|> -----Original Message----- > > > >>|> From: Dan Phillips [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > > > >>|> Sent: Tuesday, April 16, 2002 10:34 AM > > > >>|> To: CF-Community > > > >>|> Subject: Internet cited as marriage wrecker > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > > >>|> Here is an interesting topic for discussion. > > > >>|> > > > >>|> > > http://news.bbc.co.uk/hi/english/sci/tech/newsid_1931000/1931035.stm > > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>|> **sits down with blueberry muffin and glass of Juice, waiting for > > the > > >>|> discussions to begin** > > >>|> > > >>|> > > >>| > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ Structure your ColdFusion code with Fusebox. 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