I am better off that way. Are her kids? Although...I actually just had a long chat with the friend who said do what you have to do. He has known her twelve years and is willing to go by daily to make sure she is staying off the sauce. He says this sort of stuff is recent, and hopefully temporary. This seems like a better solution than making phone calls. Bringing in the parenting police is a real crapshoot. I hope it works out. Me, I've been lied to, and that's it; Amanda and I are no longer friends.
Dana On Thu, 29 May 2003 03:59:41 -0400, Adam Churvis <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > If you simply wait for her to show up and hand over her kids, then calmly > and professionally permanently sever all ties and communications with > her, > then you are better off. > > It is a clean break, you won't be summoned to court (and subsequently > threatened and/or sued by her posse for taking any sort of official > action), > and you will have preserved your sanity with the minimum impact possible. > > The more you stir in merde, the more you get on your hands. You really > seem > like too good a person to end up the victim of someone else's problems. > > Respectfully, > > Adam Phillip Churvis > Member of Team Macromedia > > Advanced Intensive ColdFusion MX Training > ColdFusion MX Master Class: > July 14 - 18, 2003 > http://www.ColdFusionTraining.com > > Download CommerceBlocks V2.1 and LoRCAT from > http://www.ProductivityEnhancement.com > > The ColdFusion MX Bible is in bookstores now! > ----- Original Message ----- From: "Dana Tierney" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > Sent: Thursday, May 29, 2003 1:39 AM > Subject: need for government intervention, or feel like a sucker.... > > >> <major vent with no relevance to other current threads, feel free to >> delete> >> >> Or is it? I'd be interested in hearing a take from all those let em >> starve >> minimalist conservatives out there. In ten words or less, I have two >> real >> live children at my house right now. >> >> So... here I am on deadline. The single mother up the street calls me up >> and wants my daughter to watch her kids. Nuh uh, I said, she just left > with >> a friend to see a movie. >> >> I am feeling unsympathetic.... My daughter wound up spending all night >> there two nights ago because Amanda was too out of it. Apparently she >> went >> out (with my daughter watching her kids) and got so drunk she hurt her >> muscles dancing at some club. So OK, maybe I am being prissy; I don't do >> the club scene but she's only about 20, with three kids under 5. And yet >> when I went to get my daughter the next day she was so out of it I >> called >> Poison Control to make sure she hadn't OD'ed. She roused enough to tell >> me >> she had taked three Percosets, a Xanax, three Darvocets and a couple of >> different kinds of musle relaxers. Welp, my daughter is scheduled to be >> doing something and I am not going to let her blow it off because this >> chick is too messed up...but I can't just walk away because hey, the >> youngest here is about one and a half and mom is just plain too messed >> up. >> I call around and find another of her friends who is willing to come >> over >> and deal with the situation. That was Sunday. >> >> Yesterday she called and said could her kids come over so she could >> clean >> her house. I said hell no, I'm still cleaning up from the last time >> they >> were over here. >> >> So today she has an appointment for an MRI. Ok, it really would be very >> hard to watch three kids that age while getting an MRI, so I say fine OK >> I'll watch the two older ones (aged 3 and 4), but not the baby. I need >> to >> get SOME work done here. And try to hurry. >> >> You guessed it. That was at 1pm... it's now after 11. She called me at 6 >> and told me they were admitting her. For a torn ligament I said? Amanda, >> I've had a torn ligament. They don't admit you for that. She gave me to >> some guy who told me he was a doctor. He was drunk. Well, ok, he was >> slurring his words, and he didn't talk like a doctor. Feeling like a >> heel > I >> asked him where she was. He names a hospital. Funny, I said, I just >> called >> there looking for her. They dont have a patient by that name. I dunno, >> he >> said. She is here on the third floor. Room 327. OK. I told him that if I >> could reach her there through the switchboard I would owe her a HUGE >> apology, got a name and phone number from him (totally different >> exchange >> from the actual number for the hospital) and tried the switchboard >> again. >> No patient by that name. Are you sure I said. She just called me, told >> me >> she was in room 327. Loooong pause on hold. Some one who identifies >> themself as an ER supervisor comes on and tells me there is no patient >> by >> that name in the hospital. Period. And all clinics are closed. While I >> am >> on this phone call she leaves me a voice message that her ex-husband >> (who >> she has previously told me smokes crank) is coming over to get the kids. > Oh >> goodie. >> >> Daughter gets home at 8. I ask her to watch kids while I look into > Amanda's >> whereabouts. Discuss this with neighbor. We are not sure if the kids are >> better off with a messed up mother who loves them, or an indifferent > foster >> care system. I really don't want cops OR social workers at my house >> thank >> you very much. A totally different guy calls me and tells me he picked >> Amanda up at the hospital and she is passed out at his house. He says he > is >> too drunk to drive. I thank him for calling. Who's taking care of the > baby? >> I ask. I am he says. I love that baby. I have met him once and he seems >> like a pretty steady guy. I hesitate. I tell him Amanda has lied to me >> and >> I need to kick her ass, and the situation is way out of hand, and he > better >> make sure that baby is OK. He says he will. I have his number on caller > ID. >> >> OK so.. kids are safe for tonight. I call the friend who came over >> Sunday. >> I am not volunteering, he says. Put up with it for as long as you can >> then >> do what you have to do. He does not have a phone number for any of her >> relatives. Hubbie never showed up. >> >> I am thinking I am gonna have to make the call. We can't keep watching >> the >> kids; we are enabling. I hope there are relatives, but I have no way to >> reach them...and I can't see just letting her pick the kids up in the >> morning. Recent experience says the kids will NOT be ok. >> >> </rant> >> >> Dana >> >> -- Someone has to knuckle down and change history, and that someone is >> you - >> The Doctor >> >> > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Your ad could be here. Monies from ads go to support these lists and provide more resources for the community. http://www.fusionauthority.com/ads.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
