Seriously, I wonder if a lot of men have issues from *not* having been breasfed...
There's a legal concept "attractive nuisance" - something you're drawn to even though posted "No Trespassing" etc.
Think that our societal hypocrisy about sensuality and sexuality is the root of the issue, e.g. we can have skimpy bikinis to "almost" show a woman's body, but tease about the "taboo" parts, not let them be seen EVER. So of course everyone wants to... but then it's WRONG. Huh???
-Ben
> this is my theory. Having had some issues with this while
> breastfeeding, I have given the matter some thought. However, I am not
> a psychiatrist
>
> >Dana,
> >
> >I wonder if this is the problem.
> >
> >You mentioned "source of milk is also a taboo".
> >Once weaned, babies don't have contact with breasts,
> >and they are hidden, becoming secondary genitalia
> >and thus objects of carnal desire.
> >
> >So, any public display (except to a baby) is "wrong"
> >since it's normally something only exposed during sex.
> >
> >But in the Tahitian (sp?) mind set, IIRC, women aren't
> >"turned on" by having their breasts fondled, since they
> >aren't considered "sexual". Whole different attitude.
> >
> >Comments?
> >
> >-Ben
> >
> >
> >> IIRC in Polynesian cultures, before the "Christian" missionaries
> >> arrived and messed with everybody's heads, women routinely went
> >> bare-breasted, and this was entirely normal. In fact, there was no
>
> >> titillation <no pun intended> from seeing them, since it wasn't
> >> "wrong".
> >> -Ben
> >>
> >>
> >> > I'm really sorry about your mother. The schizophrenia about
> women's
> >>
> >> > breasts is even worse than you suggest though, actually...
> Although
> >> it
> >> > is apparently ok to have much much cleavage in advertising and
> >> > television, the thing about source of milk is also a taboo, and
> >> > breast-feeding women have been arrested for refusing to do so in
> the
> >>
> >> > ladies' room (sitting on the toilet, presumably?) If I were a
> >> Freudian
> >> > I might attribute this to early weaning... as it is, I see the
> >> > conflicted thinking but I don't attempt to diagnose it. It exists
> in
> >>
> >> > women also, so it isn't just a guy thing.
> >> >
> >> > Dana
> >> >
> >> > >Yes, Sue's organization sponsored a play called the Strong
> Breast
> >> > Revolution
> >> > >which we went to see. The (female) players wore no tops. The
> idea
> >> > IIRC was
> >> > >that society has two main views of women's breasts: One as
> >> sexualized
> >> > and
> >> > >commidified and one as source of mother's milk. The play was
> about
> >>
> >> > allowing
> >> > >breasts to be seen in a third way which is a normal and
> beautiful
> >> > part of
> >> > >the body. It was great because it allowed for the women acting
> to
> >> > explore
> >> > >their feelings and experiences in depth and take you along for
> the
> >>
> >> > ride.
> >> > >Certainly brought out feelings about my own mother's death due
> to
> >> > breast
> >> > >cancer. Two taboos in one there eh? Death AND breasts!
> >> > >Patrick
> >> > >
> >> > >-----Original Message-----
> >> > >From: dana tierney
> >> > >
> >> > >
> >> > >
> >> > >the play?
> >> > >
> >> > >>-----Original Message-----
> >> > >>From: dana tierney
> >> > >>
> >> > >>I think I will become a Breast Ambassador :)
> >> > >>
> >> > >>-ME--> :-) go for it!
> >> > >>
> >> > >>Though I could not identify the photograph on the main page.
> Very
> >>
> >> > Georgia
> >> > >>O'Keefe :) Make you wonder what that maple leaf is hiding...
> lol.
> >> > >>
> >> > >>-ME--> :-)
> >> > >>
> >> > >>SHe does seem to be talking about the same thing I am though.
> >> > >>
> >> > >>-ME--> Yep. I wish you could have seen the play, it was very
> good.
> >>
> >> > Don't
> >> > >>forget to see Calendar Girls!
> >> > >>
> >> > >>Dana
> >> > >>
> >> > >>
> >> > >>Outbound email scanned for virus'.
> >> > >>
> >> > >
> >> > >
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