Hi Donna, I guess I should have worded that differently ... but not sure how to say it except that I would not have married someone who did not share my passion for animals ... so it is not an issue that would come up ... so I can say that tongue in cheek because I know my dh would never threaten to "get rid" of a pet - he loves them as much as I do and is as comitted to them for life as I am and would do literally everything in our power to be sure they stay with us safe and sound. It would have to be a mutual decision and something horrible like attacking our son to rehome a pet. In contrast, my sister married someone who does not value pets ... he seems to (acted like it the first few years they were married), they've bought pets together, but the second it's inconvenient for him, he forces her to get rid of them immediately. I've even had to rehome some because he wouldn't stand to have one in the house another day because of the fur on his cop uniform - guess he shouldn't have adopted two persians a year before he became a cop. Ditto for the next three dogs they had, several months, he got tired of them, told my sis it was the dogs or him - nice. These were dogs he chose, took everywhere with him, acted like he loved etc... then out of the blue, I don't want a dog, get rid of it. If I had somehow ended up married to someone like that (thinking they were someone else), I couldn't stand it, and it would be - go ahead and leave then - pets are too big a part of my life to be with someone who does not care about them. I think my BIL is bipolar btw, not just the pet thing. Shell
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I understand having a love and passion for the animals in our lives, but I can't quite see taking it to the extent of, if it came down to a choice, divorcing your husband before rehoming a dog. I love my two dogs and one cat very much and would do whatever I could to assure their health and happiness. But I'd be lying if I said they were as or more important or dear to me than my husband or my children. This will probably get me alot of flaming, but I just never got someone placing their pet at the same tier as their own flesh and blood. Close, yes but not quite on the same level. Donna NJ ===================== From: donna norden <[EMAIL PROTECTED] <donna1290%40optonline.net>> Date: 2007/06/19 Tue PM 11:02:21 CDT To: [email protected] <Chihuahuas%40yahoogroups.com> Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] OFFER: Chuhuahua at lower price KY Good post Shell. I could have and should have responded nicer to the original post. I got upset that $$ seemed more important than a forever good home.  Donna ----- Original Message ----- From: Michele Burr To: [email protected] <Chihuahuas%40yahoogroups.com> Sent: Tuesday, June 19, 2007 5:10 AM Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] OFFER: Chuhuahua at lower price KY Hi Donna,  This is exactly the way I feel about mine ... I would divorce my dh before finding a home for my pooches if they had a "problem" or there were hard times ... and I automatically assume everyone is the same, and it could never change for anyone - like my friend. I never in a million years would have thought my friend would have rehomed my pooches sister, but here she is doing it ... I guess under enough stress people will do what they have to - she's doing what she has to do to just preserve herself and a home for herself and her two kids during her divorce and it doesn't include pets right now. I haven't been able to say, "hey, one chi wouldn't kill you" - because I know she loves that dog more than anything in the world other than her kids - so I know it's killing her. She's renting a "house" so I know she "could" take her chi - I don't get it and it's breaking my heart.   Anyway, we don't know what "things" that Lisa mentioned are that she's going through - maybe just as hairy as my friend. She deserves the benefit of the doubt, and kindness, I'm sure it will be difficult to give her puppy up - I couldn't do it.   Also, there are people who just dump their chi at a rescue or shelter - she's doing the right thing and finding her baby a home.   If it was me making an adoption fee, I'd decide on an amount and make it a donation to the local humane society to help homeless animals ... but I can't give a baby up so it wouldn't be me! I would also need references, a home visit, their parent's names and addresses, a two week trial homing, and weekly visits for the next month - LOLOLOL! We still visit our breeder though - it's their doggie "grandma" after all and they like to see the other chis there.  Shell  On 6/18/07, donna norden <[EMAIL PROTECTED]<donna1290%40optonline.net>> wrote:  I would sacrifice a limb before rehoming one of my 7.  Donna  Recent Activity  16 New Members  36 New PhotosVisit Your Group SPONSORED LINKS Chihuahua Chihuahua puppies for sale Chihuahua charm Chihuahua housebreaking Chihuahua t shirt Y! GeoCities Be Vocal Publish your opi- nions with a blog. Y! Toolbar Get it Free! easy 1-click access to your groups. Yahoo! Groups Start a group in 3 easy steps. Connect with others. .
