I want to share a story with you about my Mouse...maybe it might help you to struggle through Ricky's moods a little more...lend a possible understanding to what he might be feeling. My Mouse is 7 years old. When Mouse was 4 my husband and I were going through a very difficult time...we kind of fell out of love...and my dogs were a VERY big source of irritation for him...not because of the dogs really...but because of his "lack of feelings" for me. I decided to re-home some of my dogs...and I found a wonderful home for Mouse...a nice family that seemed to really love him. From the very minute he went home with them he was NOT happy. He did not eat for a full month...only a little water. He ran away 4 times from them and the 4th time...6 months after he went to live with this family... they could not find him. This family lived 75 miles away from me...down in the valley. We live up in the San Bernardino Mountains. Mouse was found in a roadway at the bottom of my mountain by a very nice lady that took him to a Vet where they scanned his micro chip and then called me. Mouse was found 14 miles from my door and 61 miles away from his "new" family. Mouse had only to start up the 330 to get home...he was almost home!!! I PRAISE GOD everyday that that lady had the sense to take him to the Vet...he was in very bad shape and would most likely NOT made it up the mountain with hawks, coyotes, cars etc. MOUSE...even though he was loved at his new house...was MISERABLE without his Mama!!! He was coming home no matter what it took. I will tell you that in all the years Mouse lived with me he NEVER went out our door...never had a desire to be anywhere but RIGHT by my side!!! MOUSE was on his way home...to me!!! I tell you this so you might understand what Ricky might be feeling. Ricky might really be miserable right now becaue he misses his previous family. Give him time and just keep loving him...and teach him some boundaries with love...that first bond can be so VERY strong...strong enough that dogs sometimes leave a safe, warm, loving place to go back where they think they belong.
FYI- my hubby and I have fallen back in love and re-committed ourselves to each other. I have forgiven him for the affair that he had and he has forgiven me for my very selfish ways. Our marriage is better than ever!!!! Next June will be our 30th wedding anniversary and I know the next 30 will be WAY better than the first 30!!! He LOVES my dogs and build things for them and plays with them as much as I do now. MOuse coming home meant so much to him...that Mouse loved us enough to risk his life to come back home was HUGE in my husband's mind and really made him re-think so much. ...oh and one more thing....I will NEVER re-home one of my dogs again!!!! This is their one and ONLY home till either I die or they do!!! There is nothing that would/could separate us again!! Hold fast to Ricky and just know that there will be good times and bad...be patient...be strong...and never stop learning all you can!! Shanna...since you joined here I have listened as you worried and fretted over Ricky...asked everyone for advice about all issues from feeding to behavior! I have NO doubt you have what it takes to make it work with Ricky!!!! You care!!!! You are willing to learn!!! and you love Ricky enough to do all you can!!! You are doing great!!! Just give it more time...and maybe realize he may very well be so very sad inside. That will just take time!!! I have faith in you and we are all here for you too!!! Waggin' Tails in The Dog Park, Deanna and The Dog Park Pack: Nugget, Shuai-Li, Bella, Mouse, Myrtle, Mable, Toby, Caleb and Maxine!!! and honorary non-dog members of The Dog Park: Stella-Macaw, Stanley-Amazon, Miles the cat www.joys4toys.com ________________________________ From: Nancy Lucky <[email protected]> To: [email protected] Sent: Mon, October 25, 2010 3:02:03 PM Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] Ricky Needs A New Home, JOYCE... Good point, I only left Sami once to go and visit my grandkids in Arizona and he stayed with my daughter who he loved and knew them as we spend a lot of time with them. I was suppose to be gone for 10 days but had to come home after 6 because he would not eat and started losing his hair as he was so stressed. Also, remember just like real kids, even if their parents abuse them - they still love them. So I bet he will do fine once he adjusts. It's hard when you are ill and do not leave your dogs and then you go somewhere and that is what happens sometimes. That is another reason why I got another baby as if I do have to leave (which I have no plans to) them they will have each other. I was ready to come home after 6 days as I was so miserable without him. I would not share that with anyone but you gals who understand. Love - Nan and the girls.... pictures are coming soon. --- On Mon, 10/25/10, Joyce mccarthy <[email protected]> wrote: >From: Joyce mccarthy <[email protected]> >Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] Ricky Needs A New Home, JOYCE... >To: [email protected] >Date: Monday, October 25, 2010, 1:42 PM > > > > >Glad to see things are calming down for Ricky and your family...Remember >though >even an owner surrender he's gonna grieve for them...And many will stop eating >I >went thru it earlier this year when I got some dog's from a breeder..the dog's >in 12 yrs never ate anything but one kind of food and had a hard time >adjusting >to the way of life..Change isn't always good especially on adults...Good luck >and always around to help if I can... > > >On Mon, Oct 25, 2010 at 3:05 PM, Kavi <[email protected]> wrote: > > >>Hi Joyce >> >>I understand all you said. I agree with you all the way. The SPCA told me >>Ricky >>was a owner give up. They said the owners could no longer afford to feed him. >>(crock of $#@) >>He was very thin as I told before, but, after the fact, I think Ricky stopped >>eating at the SPCA. I understand this one is a non-kill shelter, but poor >>Ricky >>was thrown in a cage with 2 other bigger small dogs and was being picked on >>by >>one of them. He has very short hair, and no undercoat. He was cold and >>hungry. >>The only one that teased him in the start was the BF... no one else. He likes >>my >>husband, but has one time tried to bite him when he was in his bed. My >>husband >>is from India. His family brought him up not to touch dogs. they just did not >>like them. My husband has been nice about Ricky coming to our home. also he >>likes to give Ricky table scrapes! I tell him not too, but this is the only >>way >>he can bond with Ricky himself. He does not hold Ricky... only will pet his >>head >>when Ricky come up to him for some love. >> >> >>My daughter has gotten over her ordeal with ricky. We all need to learn to >>respect Ricky when he is in his own space or in his own world. My husband >>wants >>me to work with Ricky more and teach him to be less aggressive. Ricky and I >>are >>bonded.... The day he came up to the gate at the spca to me... and I was told >>he >>was always in the back of the cage growling and barking at the kennel people. >>It >>had to be fate that brought us together. >> >> >>As upset as I was the other day because my daughter got bit pretty badly, we >>have calmed down now. I told my daughter I just can NOT give Ricky up. That >>she >>will not always live here. bla bla bla >> >>so all is ok... I will just keep working with Ricky and socializing him as >>much >>as possible daily. >> >> >>Oh.. one more thing: Ricky likes the new kitten!! they play very well >>together. >>:):) >> >>THANK YOU EVERYONE!!! >> >>Shanna >> >> >> >>--- On Mon, 10/25/10, Joyce mccarthy <[email protected]> wrote: >> >> >>>From: Joyce mccarthy <[email protected]> >>>Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] Ricky Needs A New Home, He Is To Aggressive With >>>Family :( >>>To: [email protected] >>>Date: Monday, October 25, 2010, 7:21 AM >>> >>> >>> >>>I am gonna jump in on this as I am a breeder as some other's here are...From >>>what I have read on this whole Ricky deal the dog was an intact male who was >>>removed,given up,stray,or what ever the reason was..Maybe his owners died >>>and >>>he's had to adjust..Getting neutered being placed in the ASPCA and then a >>>new >>>home where he refused to eat was doted over and shown affection and love >>>from >>>one family member and teased and taunted by 2...How in the Hec is this a >>>breeders fault?? Suggestions were given by the group to tell the BF to leave >>>the >>>daughter told you they would move if you kept the dog...or you told them to >>>get >>>out one..So the dog (Ricky) now knows how upset you get around them over >>>this >>>but let me get this right he's suppose to like them...Picking him reminds >>>him of >>>one thing being violated and losing his jewels...take them off of your >>>husband >>>after he had them all these years I guarantee you his feelings would be on >>>the >>>same level...I think the comment about being down sized chows was a pun that >>>there little dog's with personalitys of a large dog..Chow I wouldn't have >>>used >>>just cause I can't stand those...Great dane,Rotti sure...they want to think >>>they >>>are the boss and in charge..I think one to many people are trying to be in >>>charge with Ricky ...Ricky has clearly chosen you as his person he tolerates >>>the >>>husband and has not acted out towards him as I dont' recall you saying >>>so...I >>>have had dog's come from breeders who haven't given them the time of day or >>>socialized them if you think they were angels WRONG it took years of >>>patience >>>and lot's of work..I have my own dog's turn on kids because of mis treating >>>by >>>nieces and nephews and they came from the most laid back lines didn't have a >>>thing to do with how they were bred.....IT was PEOPLE who Ruined them from >>>liking everyone! JMO >>> >>> >>>On Mon, Oct 25, 2010 at 8:52 AM, dasha <[email protected]> wrote: >>> >>> >>>>it doesnt take bad breeders ... chi's are bred down chows >>>> >>>>=============================== >>>>Where did you get this information? >>>> >>>>Sheila >>>> >>>>It always takes bad breeders >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >>> >>> >>>-- >>>Joyce >>>www.mtnviewchis.webs.com >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >> > > >-- >Joyce >www.mtnviewchis.webs.com > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >
