Robyn, I understand totally what you are saying and I've always tried to stick to issues instead of personalities. Of course, I am not perfect and have said things in the past that I regret, but I do try to stick to the idea side of things. I've had my share of being jumped on, just as you mentioned, but I'm not about to allow what another person writes to or about me to stop me from enjoying the list fully. I thoroughly enjoy the threads where the list members explore ideas and issues. Some really useful remedies and knowledge have come my way from reading the thoughts and actions of others. I seldom accept anything without questioning why.
I have always marveled at is how many of our beliefs most people accept without question. These beliefs form a subjective reality that can influence how we perceive the world. This was demonstrated by the differing opinions that Michael and I had concerning the American Cocker fancy. We saw the same fancy in completely different ways due to our individual subjective realities. I remembered a world where I was able to call a stranger and buy a female with full registration or arrange stud service for one of my girls and I was the one doing the interrogation, not the other breeder. Michael's experience was similar to what we have now in the Cavalier world. I never experienced the situation as she did, but I never called anyone on the West Coast, and my experience with the really big name breeders were ones in the South and a few in the Midwest. Maybe I was lucky, but I was never refused or treated with suspicion. When I realized the impasse in our discussion, I politely ended the thread. I like Michael and have always admired her expertise in breeding beautiful animals of all kinds as well as the artistic abilities with photography and drawing. Sometimes there is an underlying meaning or animosity that colors the comments made by breeders. The sparring between two can actually be because of things that are not list related and that can be a pain to deal with. You won't find some of these things on a moderated list, but then there is something lost when the spontaneity is gone. All the best, Susan Cochran ----- Original Message ----- From: "Robyn Futcher" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Tuesday, January 29, 2002 10:48 AM Subject: [CKCS-L] Food for thought > Hi, All-- > I've been offline for a time, and upon reading about ten days' worth of posts to the lists I'd like to comment on the amount of acrimony I saw. I'm not speaking of spirited discussion and differing points of view; I digested a few examples of what I have to call thinly-disguised vitriol. > Susan Cochran wrote regarding the list: "I know the names of the people who post, but am startled when approached by one of the many list members who lurk instead of perticipate. I don't know them, but they feel that they know me. BTW, I don't mind this but do wish that others would speak up--although it does take a sturdy suit of armor at times, LOL." With all due respect to Susan, this immediately brought to mind an incident a year or so ago where a very respected UK breeder, who had tons to offer to the readers of this list (I'm not connected to this person in any way, nor do I have any of their dogs), wrote a well-meaning post in response to a question and was so roundly set upon that s/he hasn't posted since. Like many, s/he has forsaken that suit of armor, and the list, outright. This to me is a real shame. I am certain that there are others who post infrequently (if at all) for the same reason. > I'm here to learn and think this list is invaluable. Let's not tolerate abuse of it, or one another. > > ~Robyn Futcher > > PS: Cathy? Any recipes? <VBG> > > > -- > > ========================================================= > "Magic Commands": > to stop receiving mail for awhile, click here and send the email: > mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]?body=SET%20CKCS-L%20NOMAIL > to start it up gain click here: > mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]?body=SET%20CKCS-L%20MAIL > > E-mail [EMAIL PROTECTED] for assistance. > Search the Archives... http://apple.ease.lsoft.com/archives/ckcs-l.html > > All e-mail sent through CKCS-L is Copyright 2002 by its original author. ========================================================= "Magic Commands": to stop receiving mail for awhile, click here and send the email: mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]?body=SET%20CKCS-L%20NOMAIL to start it up gain click here: mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]?body=SET%20CKCS-L%20MAIL E-mail [EMAIL PROTECTED] for assistance. Search the Archives... http://apple.ease.lsoft.com/archives/ckcs-l.html All e-mail sent through CKCS-L is Copyright 2002 by its original author.
