Terry: I am so glad to hear your "voice" once again. I was missing it within our group. Please, remember, you are not "alone". We are all here for you and for each other as well. I know you feel like you are going backwards in your life at this time instead of forwards, but you do have a child to think about, so just focus on him right now. Everything else will fall in to place eventually. You'll begin to feel like "putting yourself out there" eventually......just have to give it some time and let your heart heal. My son will turn 27 on the 4th of Dec. He learned about six weeks ago that his wife of 2 & 1/2 years had been cheating on him for the last few months with a "friend". Needless to say, my son is crushed. He tried to do the marriage counseling thing, tried really hard to help her with her "issues" and keep things together, but a couple of weeks ago, unbeknowest to her, he had put a monitoring system on his computer at home and saw where she was chatting with a fellow worker from her job about the affair and wondered "if he ever thinks of me" and that how my son LOVED her way lots more than she loved him. Well, that was enough for him, he got up and called her and told her that he was going to spend the night with his parents and he wanted her to pack her stuff and get out of the house. Told her a few other choice things as well, but I won't mention them. (smile) I don't use that language. (smile) So, they've been apart for about two weeks now, she text messages him constantly, finally talked him into having dinner with her & to go with her to the counselor once again. It's just really sad.....He works in the office for my husband at our Machine & Tool shop, so he talks with him and tells him things they discuss. It seems now she is "manipulating" the situation by bringing up petty stuff to take the focus off of what "she" did. My son says one minute he wants to take her back and the next minute he says no way. I do think he told her that since the holidays were coming up, he didn't want to do anything until after the beginning of the year, that she could just celebrate with her family and he would with us. This is my take on this whole situation.......as far as I am concerned, her whole family from her grandmother to her mom & late father, and to her two brothers and her......they've all used and abused my son in one way or another and I am ready for him to just cut the whole family lose and move on with his life. That God has some really nice young lady out there with less "issues" and that will make him a wonderful wife. My husband and I have both said that if he decides to stay with her, that we just don't see any way of how we can ever be a true "family" because of our feelings of this family. It's always going to be there stuck right in the middle of every gathering. We tell him that we will support any decision he makes and will stand behind him 100%. And, if he does decide to take her back and tries to make this work, we'll just deal with it. I've told you all of this just so you know, I do know what you've been through & that it will just take some time to get over. Just know we are all here if you need to "vent". Remember, too,
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