"The reality is even more weird, I think. Suppose there's some struggling-to-make-it new family down the street, and I start helping out by bringing them dinner every night. If I do it for a few days, e.g., while the mom is in the hospital or something, it's a genuine act of kindness. If I do it every day for five years, then they are more-or-less going to become dependent on me."

Hum....perhaps some truth there. Now whatr if the mom in the hospital actually dies while your helping that family? You've got a problem on your hands! In this case a few things can happen:

1)The kids grow dependent on you, and when you stop providing they can't cope and so get mad at you and fight to move in with you.

2)You can keep supporting them forever.

3) You start thinking, "Oh crap. These kids are going to depend on me forever unless I equip them for reality."

Of course, if Option 3 is considered, the objection might be "Hey! These aren't my kids, why do I have to do this?" But the reality is that things are what they are. The only way out is to "hope for" some kind of war or armageddon that wipes out the kids, or just realize is going to be like this forever unless you accept the reality of the situation and start equipping them.

Like any analogy, this is probably over simplistic. But it does represent one axis of truth methinks. Oh, and there's probably a 4) I missed that should be mentioned:

4) Recognize that those orphan kids are never going to be offered a job and think about how to tear the whole system down.

-TD






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