Dear Josney This is very useful. Thanks for your contribution.
Regards Soniya On Nov 7, 12:18 am, "Josney (English)" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Dear friends, > > Here are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. > Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. > When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new > friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that > have soured. > > The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every > relationship. > > 1. Let me help > Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they > do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out. > > 2. I understand you . > People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts > and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - > that > you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your > relationship. > And this can apply to any relationship. > > 3. I respect you > Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another > person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were > adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This > applies to all interpersonal relationships. > > 4. I miss you. > Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply > and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation > tells partners they are wan ted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how > important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from > your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you." > > 5. Maybe you`re right. > This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication > when you say "maybe you`re right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I`m > wrong". Let`s face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you > normally do is solidify the other person`s point of view. They, or you, > will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously > damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you`re right" can > open the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the > opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to the > other person. > > 6. Please forgive me > Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would > admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to > faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that > he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is > wiser today than he was yesterday. > > 7. I thank you. > Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the > companionship of good, close friends are those who don`t take daily > courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for > their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose > circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude > of gratitude. > > 8. Count on me > A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential > ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds > people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and > true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you > can count on me." > > 9. I`ll be there > If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a > sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from > home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I`ll be there." > Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When > we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and > us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally > and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility. > > 10. Go for it > We are all unique individuals. Don`t try to get your friends to conform to > your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far > out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are > unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow > their dreams. Tell them to "go for it." > > B o n u s : 11. I love you > Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone > that you truly love them satisfies a person`s deepest emotional needs. > The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, > your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little > words: "I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling > is gone > > Best regards, > > Josney > > "Your life is God's gift to you. What you do for others is your gift to God" --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "English Learner's Cafe" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/english_learners?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
