Hi all! It's common to hear that men are afraid of women financially independent, because women would be more powerful. The culture we grow up with says that man has to be the leader and support the family, mainly financially. Do you agree with that?
I don't agree completely, but I believe the world changed and it's been more often to see women earning more than men, since women are reaching higher positions in great companies, in politics and so forth. Pln, you have a point when you say that we take about five years to be stabilized professionally and in my point of view, when a woman or a man gets married, they change their goals. They let their desire to invest in their carriers in order to focus more on the family, the children, the house. That's the reason I believe the best age to get married is when the couple are stabilized, or about that (It's hard to know when one is stabilized, ritgh? LOL). Great topic NgoNam! Oshiro On Fri, May 15, 2009 at 7:20 AM, pln471 <[email protected]> wrote: > > Hi Mam Thuy Josney and all others, > > Thuy,could you tell us why women in Vietnam should avoid getting > married specifically at the age of 23,26 or 29? > > It reminds me of what Chinese believe that it's bad luck to get > married or even celebrate their birthdays when they reach the 9th of > their ages.(e.g.29,39,69,etc) > > Josney has a point there that if you have a plan to get married and > have children,then the earlier,the better! > But,I don't agree with him that you should get married in order to > share the morgages,debts or loans if you don't intend to have > children. > > To stay single and be financially independent is a wiser thing to > do...especially for a woman. > Unless whom you're about to marry is a great-catch,then that's totally > another story.Am I right,Josney?LOL > > It takes about 3 to 5 years to climb up the ladder of the > hierachy.Let's say after graduation from the university,you're about > 22,then it takes 5 years to stablize your position at the company you > work for. > Is that how Thuy thinks that women should get married at the age of > 27? > > I would rather say that they should get married 3 years after > graduation which means when they are 25,then have children when they > are 28 or before they turn 30. > > When does a woman's biological clock click?!;)If you know the > answer,then that's when she realizes it's urgent for her to find a man > to have a child/children with and spend the rest of her life with... > > Nam,your topic reminds me of the American sit-coms"FRIENDS"!;) And if > you want to know if Prince Charming and his Princess will live happily > after,you should watch another older series"THIRTY-SOMETHING"!;) > > And before I forget,Pablo,I've been too busy lately to reply to your > thread...:( > I'm afraid I'll have to do it hopefully next Monday. > I'll just say first now that you have a darlingly mischievious > daughter...playing a prank joke on you like that!LOL > I can't imagine when soon she'll be a teenager,how you're going to > cope with her cleverness,moodiness and stubborness?!;) > > Great weekend to all of us wherever we are! > Pln > > On May 14, 8:49 am, Thuy Nguyen <[email protected]> wrote: > > Hi Nam and everyone, > > > > I agree with you that it might be more difficult for women to find the Mr > > Right if they are over 28. In fact, many people have to look for > > match-makers to arrange some appointments for them when they can't find > > their partners. I don't know whether in the future I will fall in > > this situation or not? Hihi. > > I think the appropriate time for women to get married is the age of 27 as > > according to Vietnamese culture, women should avoid getting married at > the > > age of 23, 26 and 28. > > By the way, are there any customs in marriage in your country? I am > looking > > forward to hearing your voice > > 2009/5/14 NgoNam <[email protected]> > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi, > > > > > I totally agree with you that the youth, both boys and girls, nowadays > care > > > much about the success in their career and obviously they must spend > their > > > time and efford to reach their target. However, do you think that > success is > > > a long-term goal while getting married is the obligation of the youth > under > > > the age of 30? When people, especially women exceed a certain age, it > would > > > be much more difficult for them to find the Mr.Right, and sometimes > it's > > > harder than being successful in their career ^_^ Many women couldn't > find > > > their partner when they've gotten the highest peak of their career ^_^ > > > At what age do you think women should be worried when they didn't find > > > their partners? haha > > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > > *From:* Thuy Nguyen <[email protected]> > > > *To:* [email protected] > > > *Sent:* Thursday, May 14, 2009 11:36 AM > > > *Subject:* [ESL Podcast] Re: At what age should women in this morden > > > society nowadays get married? > > > > > Hi Nam and everyone, > > > > > Your question is very interesting. I think one of the important factor > > > inspring Vietnamse people in general and Vietnamese women in particular > to > > > get international certificates such as CFA, ACCA is the investment of > giant > > > corporations such as KPMG, PWC, HSBC, STANDARD CHATERBANK in Vietnam . > The > > > demand for high-quality labours of these corporations encourages > > > more Vietnamese people to study to cope with international working > > > environments. Furthermore, the development of the Internet today also > > > allows people access the materials to study easier. > > > Secondly, different people might have different interests. Some people > have > > > great passion for studying which can make them devote all their time > > > studying. One of my friends said that her favourite hobby is tudying. > She > > > can learn study any time, any where, Therefore, it is understandable > > > if some women put their study or carrer higher than family. > > > > > 2009/5/14 NgoNam <[email protected]> > > > > >> Hi all, > > > > >> The youth nowadays, especially women, seem to be more interested in > > >> pursuing the success in their career rather than finding a sweetheart > and > > >> getting married. In the past, girls and boys used to getting married > at the > > >> age of around 22-23. Over 25 years old girls without a boyfriend is > consider > > >> to be in danger of living alone through all their life. However the > > >> circumstance has been changed for some decades when many women were > > >> successful in their career both in the world of politics and business. > They > > >> tend to delay getting married because many have to gain some > professional > > >> certificates such as ACCA, CFA, CPA, Master and PhD, etc, which > require them > > >> 3 to 5 years to complete after graduation from university. This is a > very > > >> common trend in our country, many of my friends seem to be like that > ^_^ > > > > >> What about you? When did/will you get married? At what age should > women > > >> get married? What is your point of view about this circumstance? > > > > >> I'm curiously looking forward to knowing your view soon! > > > > >> Regards, > > >> NgoNam > > > > -- > > NGUYEN THI THUY > > Trade Finance Department > > > > Petrolimex Group Bank > > Office No.5 Trung Hoa Nhan Chinh > > Le Van Luong str, Ha Noi, Vietnam. > > Phone: (04) 62811298 - ext 236 > > Mobile: 0987 666 236 > > Email: [email protected] > > Another > > email:[email protected]<email%[email protected]> > <email%[email protected]<email%[email protected]>>- > Hide quoted text - > > > > - Show quoted text - > > > --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". 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