Hi Mikhail Charles Ed Pablo Oshiro and all, Mikhail,when someone tells me a big fat lie straight in my face,I either look him/her in the eye disappointedly or I tell them straight very sarcasticlly:'Please don't insult my intelligence!':( But only if the lie can jeopardize my career,reputation or family,I usually let it slide...
None is perfect! I tell countless white lies,too for various reasons... It's more important for me to know the reasons or motives behind their lies! Sometimes life is not purely white and black because there's a gray area,too. Besides,life is too short to dwell on things like that,and it seems pointless to me to demand honesty from someone who's a compulsive liar if you know that's the way he/she is. Charles,I agree with you that 'Actions speak louder than words.' All you need to do is to observe and listen to others more. Why so? People usually have so bad memory that they don't even remember what they told you before,so it's easy for you to know who's who in a rather short period of time sadly... Trust is a delicate thing,and it isn't something that can be built in a day. It's the same when we talk about respect. If you want to build a strong team,the most important spirits I would say is to build trust and respect for one another first in order to reach a common goal. To reach such a state of team spirit,each of them must feel comfortable to say whatever in their mind without fearing being laughed at,mocked or judged among the group first... Thank you two for your valuable points which I didn't even think about earlier!:) Good day,everyone! Claire On Jul 30, 11:14 am, Charles <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi Claire and all, > > I agree with it.What we are talking about here is "trust",the key > point of relationship. > > We make decisions relating others according our own reasons and reason > of others.So,people exchange their ideas.However,nobody don't know > what's real in your mind but what you told him.So it require a > honestly conversation to exchange the mind. > > Also,we predict future depending on people's plan.If you don't want > to,you can't get to.However,wanting to doesn't mean getting to. > > lying is quickest way to destroy "trust".So,it's more important to see > what people do more than what he say. > > all in all,honestly means no cheating giving at least you the chance > to involve decision making which is feeling good by most of > people.It's good for relationship. > > Best regards > Charles > > > > On Thu, Jul 30, 2009 at 5:07 AM, Dipodidae<[email protected]> wrote: > > > On 26 июл, 22:20, Elham Moazzen <[email protected]> wrote: > >> Hiding some information is not a lie. Lying is when someone tells things > > > I like this sentense! Your are right! > > > I think that at first we should be honestly with ourself. I didn't > > think that it was a main idea of proverb. > > In bussines it doesn't work out! In Big World I would like to adopt > > other proverb "Trust, but verify". > > > But all my life I live with meaming that honesty is more strong) And > > I'm not good in telling lie. > > > Have you a situation when someone was telling you a lie straight in > > eyes and you know it? > > > P.s. > > And main) > > I am pleased to be with your, my friends! > > Thank you Claire! I'm glad too!- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". To post to this group, send email to: [email protected] or just reply this message For invite your friends, visit: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/members_invite Know how help us, visit this FAQ at: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/web/frequently-asked-questions -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
