Taking responsibility for your own feelings is good. All the other justification for acting like a dick with other people is just that.
Sri may suffer from a dissociative disorder that makes him uncomfortable with other people's feelings. We don't all have this personal problem and can listen to how people feel with compassion and a genuine interest in them. The story about how the master didn't react to news of a person's death betrays a shallow immature ability to accept all the emotions that life has to offer. Not caring for how a person feels but claiming to care for the person reveals his own emotional shortcomings. Given his odd background with MMY it doesn't surprise me. Daddy MMY isn't one for giving too many strokes to his minions. I remember in India hearing MMY say "Have Ravi do it" and seeing Ravi cringe numerous times. That was right before he left to become Sri Sri, the guy who can rant about other people's "emotions" as if they don't matter. It has the human insight of "The Cable Guy". Even the usually detached MMY shows emotion at people's deaths. Pretending to know all about what happens when someone dies is so common among Christian fanatics. They call it being 'Promoted to glory". They have the same confidence in the absolute knowledge that gurus claim. I think they are all front'n. Caught up in their own beliefs and missing one of the most fantastic mysteries of life. They miss the love and compassion that can flow at a funeral. A connection in love of the living. It doesn't work as well if you are caught up in your own smug perfect knowledge that death doesn't matter. Was the quote out of context? Was it delivered to a specific group of crybabies who were pissing him off? I guess having people hang on your every words and quote you endlessly can have its downsides. --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "martyboi" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Taking Responsibility For Your Feelings > > Often people think caring, being compassionate, means catering to the > emotional needs of another person. They think they need to say, "Oh, > how are you feeling? You are sad today? You are depressed? Oh, just > tell me what is it." They sit, listen and console the person; they > support and in fact encourage the other person's feelings of > negativity and misery. Pampering a person in this way just leads to a > bigger mess. > > Just realize how often you ask people how they feel. See, today you > feel good. Tomorrow you don't feel good. Who cares? There is no > guarantee you will feel good after doing anything. You may feel > miserable. You may suffer. You don't need to care for people's > emotions at all. This may look very cruel, but I tell you it is okay, > because it makes you strong. > > A wise person does not care for emotions because emotions are ever > changing. And everyone has to work out their own karma. If you are > feeling bad, you must have done something terrible in your past. > Otherwise, why would you feel bad? Nature is never unjust. Nature > always does justice. If you are unhappy, it's because of your own > karma. If you are suffering, it's because of your karma. Suffer. > Finish it off. Suffer and finish. Nature brings joy to one who has > done good and brings suffering to those who have down wrong acts. > > It is not necessary to care for anybody's feelings at all. Absolutely > not. You needn't complain at all. The question is, are you doing your > job? Do your job. That's it. That makes people really strong. And no > one complains. Nothing to complain about. > > Once a very educated gentleman went to visit an enlightened master. A > third person spoke with them, and then left the room, and in half and > hour, that person met with an accident on the road and died. When the > news came, the master just kept silent for a minute or two and then > started doing his usual business. The gentleman said, "There's no > compassion here. I cannot understand this." > > For a Master, for an enlightened person, death and life is nothing. > It's like going from one room to another room. A big deal! Time, > infinity, dead and gone. So what? The person who is knowledge neither > cries for the living nor cries for the dead. Do you see what I am > saying? It's not lack of compassion. But compassion we often > misunderstand as pampering, telling nice words, giving attention - all > those things. There is no way you can demand that kind of attention in > the company of a true master. If you demand attention - get out! > Straight. When you complain, you will be asked to just get out. Do > your job and be happy. That's it. > > That strength of discipline helps people to go beyond their feelings > and emotions. I think that is good because then you are busy doing > something. You are not sitting and thinking, brooding over, expecting > someone to console you or to uphold you. Isn't it? Simply working, > simply busy and achieving your goal. Your mind is focused on that. > Then that brings so much strength in you. > > Certainly I don't want you to whine and complain. No way. I don't care > how you feel. I care for you and I don't care how you are feeling. You > feel up and you feel down - it's so much moodiness. So much wasting > of time happens in this. > > Take responsibility for your own feelings. In the world, often people > throw their responsibility of their feelings on others and on > situations, circumstances. Somebody else is responsible for my feeling > down. Because you said this thing to me, I am feeling low. You didn't > look at me, so I am feeling low. > > You know, no one is responsible for the way you feel. YOU are totally > responsible if you are feeling happy or unhappy. Take that > responsibility. When you take responsibility, you gain power. Then > you become happy. > > JAI GURU DEV > > January 2000 > Bad Antogast, Germany >
