--- In [email protected], "sparaig" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> Put yourself in the friend's shoes: Someone is very angry and hurt 
> and expressing that anger and hurt and the response is literally: 
its 
> OK, I still love you.
> 
> How would YOU feel?

I don't generally respond well to hypotheticals, because they're not-
here-now, but I'll give it a shot. If I were Rick's friend I would be 
feeling what he feels -- anger, hurt, betrayal and so on. So? All to 
the good. When I've been in that space, there's generally not much the 
other can say or do to woo me out of it. Nor should they feel 
obligated to try. I am feeling it because I want to -- because I need 
to. That's my emotional "weather" at that moment. Being given the 
space to feel what I need to feel, and to be reassured that Love 
remains regardless -- that's a good thing, and something I have 
rejoiced to know when my own deep-held concepts and attachments were 
being shaken to their very foundations.

In this case, anger, hurt and betrayal are precisely what I *should* 
be feeling, as these are signposts that I have placed my eggs in a 
conceptual basket that happened to shake simply by Rick's standing for 
his own Truth. Good for Rick, and my eventual thanks to him. Any 
conceptual basket and all of its eggs are going to fall sooner or 
later. If I were not ready to have the basket shook, trust me; it 
wouldn't have shaken. 
:-)




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