> > > Reading the meltdowns of the last few days, it has become
> > > clear to me why I don't "fit in" here at Fairfield Life.
> > >
> > Many days on looking at FFL chatter using Thunderbird goes
> > like this "right click on FFL folder and select Mark Folder
> > Read." FFL is OCD ward at the Iowa state insane asylum. :-D
> >
turquoiseb:
> With affiliate members participating from similar
> institutions in New Jersey and Ontario. :-)
>
> At least it's good every so often to be provided
> with a demonstration of why the FFL Posting Limits
> were considered necessary, and why they still are. :-)
>
> Since you brought up insane asylums, I am reminded
> of what my friend in Santa Fe (the head of a rather
> prestigious mental institution in NM) once told me
> about the difficulties of treating patients with
> Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He knew of my
> interest in the disorder, because of my long-time
> association with Rama, who was NPD to the max.
>
> He said that in his experience any kind of meaning-
> ful and beneficial treatment was even more difficult
> with NPD patients than with Borderline patients,
> because of their tendency to try to suck therapists
> into their realities. He likened NPD patients to
> chronic abusers (spouse abuse and child abuse) in
> the patterns they employed.
>
> When the therapist didn't give them the attention
> they desired, *in the form they desired it*, the
> NPD patients would begin to "play nice" for a while,
> just as abusers do. They would try to worm their
> way into the therapists' good graces by acting all
> friendly, or by praising them or flattering them.
> Whatever worked. Or they would act all rejected,
> and try to play upon the therapists' sympathies.
>
> The *point* of this exercise on their part, in his
> professional opinion, was exactly the same as the
> *point* in abusers -- to lure the unwary closer,
> so that they could then take advantage of their
> closeness to provoke another confrontation, which
> would (of course) result in the same abuse as before.
> My therapist friend had to give ongoing courses to
> his staff to warn them of this tendency in the NPD
> patients, and counsel them to *keep their distance*.
>
> I always felt that my friend's insights are equally
> valuable when dealing with Egos On The Internet.
> They'll do anything -- ANYTHING -- to try to get
> you to interact with them. But it's always a prelude
> to another round of abuse.
>
So, this is just a prelude to what you have in store
for us to read and respond to? If so, would you mind
discussing something other than your usual topics
such as Judy's age or the size of your organ?
