Ann, I've been working on this during Saturday morning, as I can. I do read your posts. Sometimes I skim longer posts no matter who the poster is. Anyway, I especially chortled at your quip about my fat ball working so good that you're calling it my mind. And my faith in humanity etc. was totally restored by your recent posts to Steve and your humorous but unmalicious comments to various peeps. Plus the wonderful exchange between you and Xeno.
Now, about past posts as you discuss below, what to say? I think you also made some good points and were IMO writing in a balanced way which I appreciate a lot. But perhaps we should cut to the chase about my accusing Robin of psychological rape. BTW, did you notice that in a recent exchange with Curtis Robin himself used that term in relation to you? But maybe he was being ironic. I often can't tell. And did you see where Judy said to Steve that sometimes Robin pushes people so that they become more interesting to interact with? With reference to that, I would say that psychological rape is pushing WAY too much. And as I said last year, what I meant by psychological rape is that Robin continually and without equivocation, attributed thoughts and feelings to me that I wasn't having. That's still how I define psychological rape and I still think Robin was doing that then. OTOH I wish I hadn't got so upset with him then and also on Sept 6. I also wish that he had acted differently. I also wish that Judy had acted differently, and you and Emily and Ravi and RD. I now realize that we were all doing the best that we could. And I think you and Emily and I would act differently now because I've seen us do just that. I definitely don't think Judy would act differently. And I'm not sure if Robin would act differently. Questions: what do YOU think I should do at this point, especially given what you and Robin think about my apologies? And do you think any attempt at reconciliation should be done online or offline? Share Part of what Ann wrote in thread called parsing a la FFL archives: I agree that posts are a snapshot in time of a moment, an opinion, a reaction, an interaction, belief or emotion or a combination of the above. A post was/could be valid for whoever wrote it at the time they were writing. Posts are not something that need to haunt, condemn or limit us as human beings. We can change our minds, our views; our emotions come and go (as you state below). I think what I object to on occasion, and this applies generally, is when someone fails to admit that they did say something or were feeling a certain way as clearly evidenced by their thoughts in words in their writing. One can regret having written something or they can explain it or they can admit certain things or they can fight like crazy to try and make it seem like the post was somehow 'lying'. I am someone who likes others to be truthful about their motives or their opinions and to admit if these have changed or were, in fact, what they appeared to be at the time of their posting. If there was a misunderstanding between posters then work it out. I think 25% of what become arguments here are based on misunderstandings and not some malevolent intention by members here. snip I think Judy has a very clear and analytical mind. I would want her on my side if it came down to a court of law and I was on trial. But I don't think Judy believes Robin to have been "helpless victim" in your interaction. ________________________________ From: Ann <awoelfleba...@yahoo.com> To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Sent: Saturday, April 20, 2013 9:01 AM Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: Post Count Sat 20-Apr-13 00:15:02 UTC --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@...> wrote: > > Buck, congratulations about the new lambs. Now about this FFL as European > soccer league suggestion, here's another idea: DON'T READ THE POSTERS YOU > HAVEN'T ENJOYED READING IN THE PAST! Ah, but where is your optimism for the future? Your faith in humanity? Your willingness to be shown a former curmudgeon is, in fact, a really kind and loving person? Does this mean you might be left with only person's posts to read in a few weeks? Is this what a true warrior princess would do? Does this mean you don't read my posts?! Or are you just giving Buck sage advice? (Just goofing around with you Share, don't take me seriously.)  Duh! Bob's your uncle! I threw in that last sentence because I learned it from my British buddy and Britain is sort of European. Also dear Buck, there has been a local pizza chain in Iowa City called Bob's Your Uncle. All in all, everything's nicely unified dontcha think? > Waving at you from Bamgambhrini, > Share behind the Sweet Spot > _______________________________ > From: Buck <dhamiltony2k5@...> > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > Sent: Friday, April 19, 2013 11:09 PM > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: Post Count Sat 20-Apr-13 00:15:02 UTC > Dear FFL owner; how's about if you won't drop the post limit to 30 posts per week and thereby improve the posting environment here that way we then treat this problem here like they do in European soccer leagues and send top posters to the bottom league and bring some bottom posters to the top. [?] Like, look at last week's top posters. Out of common courtesy anyone with any decency would have taken their personal bickering and conversation like that off-list between themselves privately. But say to protect the FFL list we proactively re-set the postings such that the top posters, say the top three (3) posters and send them to the bottom for the next week; of any one week that the preceding week's top three posters make only posts just as much as the bottom three posters of the preceding week here.
