--- In [email protected], TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > What's strange is that I forgot to mention > > > > > > > > codependency. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Thanks for reminding me. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Thanks for providing my morning chuckle, Vaj. :-) > > > > > > > > > > > > Says the comrade-in-arms while chuckling over jokes made > > > > > > at the expense of someone with suspected and/or diagnosed > > > > > > mental problems. > > > > > > > > > > Lighten up, Lawson. I was not laughing at the recent > > > > > jibes made here about your medical condition, and do > > > > > not support them. I was laughing at Judy's compulsive > > > > > rush to "defend" one of the people she views as a > > > > > "comrade-in-arms" and supporter. The 'codependency' > > > > > Vaj jokes about is on her side, not yours. I found > > > > > it funny, that's all. > > > > > > > > Actually, I took it as a jibe at me since "co"-dependency > > > > is, well, a two-way street. > > > > > > > > You can't have a single person be "co"-dependent. > > > > > > You are correct, of course. I was just chuckling > > > at the 'dependency' Vaj nailed in someone who has > > > made an Internet 'career' out of trying to convince > > > others that she's "right" and that they pretty much > > > have to agree with her. Once she recruits someone > > > into the position of agreeing with her fairly consis- > > > tently > > > > In other words, *Lawson* is the co-dependent, the > > one who is manipulated and controlled (or the "toady," > > as Barry is fond of putting it). > > No, exactly backwards. As you keep saying, you might > learn to read. I was suggesting that *you* are dependent > on the people whom you feel agree with you.
You can suggest anything you like. I'm just pointing out that that isn't what "co-dependent" means. A co- dependent is someone who is manipulated by another person with a personality disorder. Only if you're claiming Lawson is the one doing the manipulating could you properly call me the co-dependent. If I'm the manipulator, then Lawson is the co-dependent. > I was sug- > gesting that (IMO, of course) it seems to give you > some feeling of comfort to know that people agree > with you or that you have been successful in convincing > them that you are right, I suspect the vast majority of people feel more comfortable with agreement than disagreement. and when that happens, you > form a protective relationship with them, compulsively > rushing in to "protect" them whenever they get into a > challenging discussion. I could be wrong about this, > but it's my honest opinion after watching your behavior > for years. Yeah, you're wrong about this. As I said, I support those I feel are being unfairly attacked, whether I agree with them or not. > Lawson does NOT need your "protection." Has nothing to do with "protection." It has to do with standing up for what I feel is right, i.e., fairness. Not something you'd understand, of course. <snip> > I really don't believe that my point of view is "right." > It's just my point of view. It changes daily, if not > more often. If your point of view or someone else's > differs from mine, I think that's OK, and I'm going > to try my best to not get involved in discussions that > seem to be oriented towards proving the superiority of > one point of view and the inferiority of the other. > That strikes me as terribly lowvibe and not worthy of > someone who has spent as long on a spiritual path as > I have or as you have. If you still get off on such > things, I wish you well with it, but I really don't > want to get involved any more. <snore> Be interesting to know exactly how many times you've made this vow. Between FFL and alt.m.t, it's surely up to the several dozens by now. ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Dying to be thin? Anorexia. Narrated by Julianne Moore. http://us.click.yahoo.com/abEMxA/sbOLAA/d1hLAA/0NYolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
