Wayback's point that people on the list don't really need you to
defend them is a good one though. Barry does his own damage to himself
through his extremism. 

"What if they gave a war and nobody came?"

--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <jstein@> wrote:
> >
> > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, anonybliss_ff <no_reply@> 
> > wrote:
> > <snip>
> > > Judy, you could just let him stew in his own juices. You don't 
> have
> > > to take it on. It must feel awful enough already to feel like he 
> > > does. By continuing to engage him you just absorb his stuff and 
> it 
> > > gives him an out from having to take responsibility for himself, 
> > > the opposite of what you say you want to achieve. IMO, better to 
> > > just be a (ok, relatively) silent mirror, then all it can do is 
> > > reflect back at him—his mind, his thoughts, his feelings, his 
> > > creation and he can take responsibility for it.
> > 
> > If some others would tell him what he needs to hear,
> > as you just did, I'd be happy to shut up.
> > 
> > Thanks for your comments.
> One more quick point.  In case anyone is dubious
> that I'd keep quiet if others were calling Barry
> on his misbehavior: When we had that unpleasant
> episode awhile back of the forum being reclassified
> as adult because of a certain poster's complaint,
> I didn't comment on what the poster wrote, even though
> we had a history on alt.m.t as well, although not as
> long as I've had with Barry.  Others were saying
> what needed to be said to and about this poster,
> so I didn't feel I had to add anything.
> (Ironically, my one comment on those exchanges was
> in response to a particularly vicious and hypocritical
> attack of Barry's on this poster.  Later on alt.m.t,
> Barry claimed I had been "vocal on FFL in condemning"
> the poster.  I mean, the up-is-downism is just
> extraordinary.)

To subscribe, send a message to:

Or go to: 
and click 'Join This Group!' 
Yahoo! Groups Links

<*> To visit your group on the web, go to:

<*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to:

<*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to:

Reply via email to