Wayback's point that people on the list don't really need you to defend them is a good one though. Barry does his own damage to himself through his extremism.
"What if they gave a war and nobody came?" --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <jstein@> wrote: > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, anonybliss_ff <no_reply@> > > wrote: > > <snip> > > > Judy, you could just let him stew in his own juices. You don't > have > > > to take it on. It must feel awful enough already to feel like he > > > does. By continuing to engage him you just absorb his stuff and > it > > > gives him an out from having to take responsibility for himself, > > > the opposite of what you say you want to achieve. IMO, better to > > > just be a (ok, relatively) silent mirror, then all it can do is > > > reflect back at himhis mind, his thoughts, his feelings, his > > > creation and he can take responsibility for it. > > > > If some others would tell him what he needs to hear, > > as you just did, I'd be happy to shut up. > > > > Thanks for your comments. > > One more quick point. In case anyone is dubious > that I'd keep quiet if others were calling Barry > on his misbehavior: When we had that unpleasant > episode awhile back of the forum being reclassified > as adult because of a certain poster's complaint, > I didn't comment on what the poster wrote, even though > we had a history on alt.m.t as well, although not as > long as I've had with Barry. Others were saying > what needed to be said to and about this poster, > so I didn't feel I had to add anything. > > (Ironically, my one comment on those exchanges was > in response to a particularly vicious and hypocritical > attack of Barry's on this poster. Later on alt.m.t, > Barry claimed I had been "vocal on FFL in condemning" > the poster. I mean, the up-is-downism is just > extraordinary.) > To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/