--- In [email protected], "authfriend" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In [email protected], "jim_flanegin" <jflanegi@> > wrote: > > > > --- In [email protected], "authfriend" <jstein@> > > wrote: > > > Some of us, Barry, have the ability to laugh *and > > > also* take seriously those things that warrant it. > > > > > > The interesting serious thing about what "flowed off" > > > your keyboard here is that your quips about people > > > you don't have any beefs with were all light, purely > > > humorous, whereas the ones about those you do have > > > beefs with were putdowns disguised as humor. > > > > > As transparent as glass. He plays the Fool and the Lost when it > > suits him. Its like people who are late for appointments only in > > their personal lives, but never to work. Because work is something > > directly affecting them, whereas being late for others only > > incoveniences the others. So Barry can always claim not being > > serious, and laugh and jibe at others- If you've noticed he has > > been very much into this 'not being serious' theme ever since Tom > > tore him a new one a few days ago. > > > > But I recall when Barry's stuff is gone after, when his ass is on > > the line, he's every bit as serious as the next person. The "I'm as > > blithe and free as the Autumn leaves" schtick is SO very self > > serving... > > Bingo. And, as you say, so very transparent. > > > Hey, this is kinda fun- The Barry Channel, starring Barry- > > tagline, "its all about Barry!" LOL! > > > > So, yeah Judy I recognize the hypocrisy of his game. I just am not > > out to convince him of anything any longer, or have any meaningful > > discussion with him. I *get* him now. Completely. > > Trouble is, he still gets positive feedback from > those who *don't* see the hypocrisy, so he continues > to believe it's a viable mode. > Yeah, I know. I used to be bothered by that, as I was with other stuff here, until I realized much of it wasn't my problem to solve. I just had to let go of it, and feel a lot better for having done so.
The solution is sometimes other than going at it head-on. You have certainly tried this head-on approach for years and it hasn't helped at all, though possibly honed your skills for spotting such stuff. I realized at some point there is no saving people from themselves. Lessons are to be learned in their own particular way for a reason, and that reason is often times between the person learning and God, as is the resolution of the lesson. Sure has worked out that way for me. So you may just want to lay aside the investment you've made up until now, and just let it go.
