Re: Please add to the CLS - and HELP - long, sorry

Mon, 06 Nov 2006 13:38:39 -0800

Very well said, Phaewryn!
My hat is off to you on this.
I too have learned a lot of lessons over the course of time. I've learned by my mistakes god only knows. Sometimes it does take longer to heal and move on. I did the guilt trips too...like what if?
I now use it in memory and to honor the loss of my furangels.
 
In a message dated 11/6/2006 1:28:51 P.M. Pacific Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
I've had several situations where I contributed to a cat's death. You can let it eat you up inside, OR you can call it a lesson and try to take what you learned and use it in a way to benefit other cats, and in that, you can find a balance of knowing that even though you made a mistake, you took what you learned and used it to HELP in so many MORE ways, that you can live with it. If I hadn't learned that lesson years ago, I would have killed myself by now. I live with the guilt, but I don't let it consume me, and every time I get a chance, I use what I learned to HELP another cat in honor of the cat I lost because of my stupidity. Sometimes I even say it out loud, "This is in honor of Kiki, thank you for teaching me the lesson I needed to learn to help this cat now." or "This is in honor of Moogie, thank you for opening my eyes so that I could learn the things I need to know to help this cat now."
 
If everyone just wallowed in self pity or imploded into a living train wreck at their mistakes, we'd never make any progress on changing things for the better. It's only by living through our mistakes and learning from them, that we can find new ways to work through the problems we face and effect positive changes in the world.
 
Behind me right now, as I sit here at my desk, are four cats sleeping contently on my bed. Two of them wouldn't be so happy now if I hadn't made the mistakes I made in the past at the cost of a precious life. Bones, in the upper left of the bed, had a broken back, from my past experience with Do-Dah, I learned that that is not a death sentence, and now Bones is here as a reminder of the lesson I learned from that experience. Mythic, on the bottom of the bed is a local stray I took in years ago, because he was roaming outside, I took him in because of Kiki, who was hit by a car because of my stupidity years ago, now Mythic wont get killed by a car because of the lesson I learned back then. In EVERY thing that happens in your life, there is a lesson. Sometimes it's not one you wanted to learn, and sometimes it's vague and hard to even find, but it's there. There's a saying that I hate to quote, because I'm not a religious person, but it's so true (and it could be any higher power behind it anyways, whichever one you think may exist), it says "God never gives you more than you can handle." It's true, it may hurt beyond belief, it may send you for a loop, you may take YEARS to assimilate it, but if you just dig for the lesson in things, you can ALWAYS get through it if you can put it in the right perspective!
 

Phaewryn
 
 

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