Julie,
I am so sorry your Mom passed away - I lost my Mom to Lung cancer almost
13 years ago and I can feel the emptiness even now. I know this isn't a
very easy time for you - trying to finish your Masters degree and dealing
with your own health problems - but you need to stay strong and take care
of yourself - your Mom's spirit is still alive and well - she's just moved
on to the next level, one that most of us cannot access while we still
cling to our physical form. My prayers are with you and I'm sending
strong and healing vibes your way too. You don't need to apologize for
reaching out to us on a non-FeLV topic - we are here to support you
whenever you need us. The first year will be the toughest to go thru -
you will have holidays, anniversaries and your birthday to go thru with
only your memories of her, and it's okay to cry - it's a very empty
feeling. Don't let anyone tell you that you should get over it or
anything else insensitive and stupid. Some people will say things like
"at least she didn't suffer", and they're trying to be supportive - they
just aren't quite sure what to say or do for you. You will have to tell
them what it is you need or want from them, and then they will be able to
help you. And remember, we are here on this list anytime you need us -
just ask.
Kat (Mew Jersey)
On Fri, 13 Apr 2001, Julie Schaub-Chavis wrote:
> Date: Fri, 13 Apr 2001 09:39:45 -0700
> From: Julie Schaub-Chavis <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> Subject: Re: Spay for Polkadots
>
> Totally off topic-but I need advice if anyone can give it. Emotionally I am
> not too stable right now. I lost my mother-she was a diabetic and her blood
> sugar dropped low and she passed out. No one found her for 3 1/2 hrs-and by
> then it was too late. This happened a week ago. We were incredibly close-she
> was my closest friend and I talked to her every day-including that one -even
> though at present we lived 3500 miles apart. The service was beautiful-and
> we buried her with my brother and her parents-bur this is really hard for me
> and I have some major health problems as well. I am also very close to
> finishing my masters and was planning to go back and live near her-we were
> looking forward to it. Its so hard for me, and I still have to manage school
> when all my relatives are 3500 miles away. My husband is great-but I could
> use prayers and advice. I talked to her that morning and she felt fine.
> About an hour after she talked to me-something happened and she passed out
> and apparently slipped into a coma. I apologize for taking up this site-but
> I am reallly hurting-and only know 2 people here in Oregon who I am close
> to. This fall I'll be moving back-but need advice on surviving the next 4
> months. I am grateful that she went without knowing anything was wrong-and
> without pain-but I just desperately wish someone had stopped by the house
> and found her. She had a friend who had a key for just such emergencies. My
> dad came in and found her when he got off work-and this has been enourmously
> hard for him-after 33 yrs of marriage it is quite a shock. Sorry for taking
> up so much space-I hope you can understand.
> Julie
