Owen, 

Not convinced. I think you are describing "buddies," "colleagues",
"acquaintances", ie, people with whom you share an interests in a
relatively narrow context. 

A friend, on my account, is a person with whom one shares committment to
one another's mutual well-being, as well as many common interests, a
division of labor, and means of solving interpersonal problems that arise.  

I certainly don't have 200 friends. 

N

Nicholas S. Thompson
Emeritus Professor of Psychology and Ethology, 
Clark University ([email protected])
http://home.earthlink.net/~nickthompson/naturaldesigns/
http://www.cusf.org [City University of Santa Fe]




> [Original Message]
> From: Owen Densmore <[email protected]>
> To: <[email protected]>; The Friday Morning Applied Complexity
Coffee Group <[email protected]>
> Date: 11/25/2009 10:26:49 AM
> Subject: Re: [FRIAM] Dunbar numbers and distributions
>
> On Nov 25, 2009, at 10:17 AM, Nicholas Thompson wrote:
> > <snip>
> > Nobody has a hundred friends, so the word, friend,  is being  
> > extended  in a creepy Orwellian way to include strangers.
>
> I disagree.  I was surprised to find just how many work, family,  
> school, church, complexity, .. friends I *do* have.
>
> I just started facebook a few days ago, and I'm finding a huge number  
> of non-stranger, non-virtual acquaintances I have.  I'm trying to keep  
> the list "quality" high .. i.e. only include folks who I really do  
> know and enjoy being in touch with.
>
> I'll easily top 200.  So would anyone I think who's got diverse  
> contexts mentioned above.  No strangers.  And not including everyone I  
> do know just to keep the list tight.
>
>     -- Owen



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