Marcus wrote: > I actually don’t understand why people consider the social lubrication > provide by non-verbal, in-person communication a good thing. It > seems to be widely believed that it is good if people don’t offend one > another, and that in-person communication makes that easier. > > If there is a lack of context in a message, and some of the contexts > would be offensive to some audience, then it is just as true in person. > > If someone smiles when they say it, really what is the difference? > Maybe what they are really doing is trying to bias the distribution > of received interpretations to benign ones, while at the same time > disseminating and normalizing the not-so-benign interpretations? > ... and add the insidiousness of NLP and it gets yet more interesting...
I personally appreciate both modes A LOT. I've learned some interesting/important things about some of the "voices" on this list by meeting the very same people in person, and/or on Video Chat. When we are doing the "brady bunch" thing on zoom, it helps me to see who is listening to who with what posture before they respond. I *believe* I can read some of that stuff effectively over video, but I could be wrong. I also appreciate the more thoughtful, introspective responses that text allows with it's asynchronous nature... and the "distance" of space/time/txt. I also accept/acknowledge that everyone has their own comfort with different "modes". I do like your phrase: "trying to bias the distribution of received interpretations to benign ones, while at the same time disseminating and normalizing the not-so-benign interpretations". I'm only passingly familiar with NLP but I've experienced this many times (mostly from evil bosses and salespeople) and can't believe it isn't a learned skill with a whole section in the training manual. - Steve
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