Dear Sam, Exploit the indian cultural reality to deal with your situation. You say your parens are old. That means that they are set in their ways and they do not really deserve at their age to have to deal with your sexuality and such things which are culturally alien to them. You do not have to tell them anything. Just live with your friend and introduce him as the bestest of friends to your parents. What you do in the privacy of your bedroom, they need not know. You do not have to wave the gay flag. Just insist on continuing with your friendship with your friend [this they can digest, its got nothing to do with sex you see, and male to male friendship is the most natural thing in Indian culture], and be steadfast in your refusal to marry [if there is pressure on you to marry, that is. It will pain and hurt your parents, they may even throw tantrums and create scenes, you be firm, and ultimately they will still be OK with it. Its less painful than having to deal with your sexuality]. Ultimately culture and its operation can work both ways and we all can use it to our advantage if we do so wisely. There are no TOTAL happy turns, bust one can create best case scenarios. Wish you the best
:-)) Aditya Bondyopadhyay -----Original Message----- From: [email protected] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of idont likeit Sent: Saturday, October 29, 2005 6:56 PM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: g_b life partner-- expectations vs reality hi aditya, so nice to know about u partners. just to share with, i am in an almost similar situation as far as my choice of partner is concerned. but a major part need to be resolved in our case. our parents' concern. I dont know when we would really disclose. It is not a matter of throwing it on their face one day and quitting from home. but I am worried about, to what extent I might have hurted them when I do that. If my relatives come to know, i am sure they would subject my parents to big insult. my parents are too old, orthodox and i am the only son. worst case, what if they commit.....Im clear about all else in my life except for this imbroglio. I wish, dream one day to lead life like u two guys. time has to tell. regs sam ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Get fast access to your favorite Yahoo! Groups. Make Yahoo! your home page http://us.click.yahoo.com/dpRU5A/wUILAA/yQLSAA/WfTolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> Group Site: http://www.gaybombay.info ========================== This message was posted to the gay_bombay Yahoo! Group. Responses to messages (by clicking "Reply") will also be posted on the eGroup and sent to all members. If you'd like to respond privately to the author of any message then please compose and send a new email message to the author's email address. Post:- [email protected] Subscribe:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Digest Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] No Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Individual Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Contact Us:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Archives are at http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay%40yahoogroups.com/maillist.html Classifieds for personal advertisements are back on www.gaybombay.info site. Please exercise restraint in the language of your personal advertisement. Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gay_bombay/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
