It is painful to know, understand, and be able to acknowledge that one is
codependent.
the person at the receiving end of codependency feels harrowed.
feelings (specially if one-sided) of love / friendship are real ...
undoubtedly difficult to deal with , ... and writing them off to be just a
compulsion or an addiction... can be devastating, unsettling , and frustrating
for the codependent, provoking further helplessness .
A friend or someone trying to be a friend of a codependent , feels exhausted,
confused, infuriated, and leaves the latter in due course of time.
Codependent finds it very difficult to deal with his own feelings . and being
abandoned by the one ,(may be justified)
he feels most close to , does him no good.
to address the problem of codependency requires a lot more support than may be
available , because the codependent often fails in building a wider support
structure for himself.
a feeling of being isolated overpowers him ..
medical attention is a must ...
but nothing substitutes "being understood"
and
nothing is more devastating than "being misunderstood" .
the feelings are not unreal ... even if dealing with them may be extremely
difficult .
