I like this essay ("Dr. Boli" is a fictional character, who writes about
himself in the third person):

http://drboli.com/2014/08/17/things-we-simply-cannot-improve-11/

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Dr. Boli has long believed that many of our conflicts today come from a
misunderstanding of the difference between *approval* and *tolerance. *They
are nearly opposite. It is possible for a Baptist to tolerate a Mormon:
that is, to welcome him as a neighbor, to vote for him as a candidate for
city council, to patronize his business, and to leave him alone to worship
as he chooses. But do not ask the Baptist to *approve* of Mormonism. The
Baptist must condemn Mormonism as fiction and heresy, or he ceases to be a
Baptist. Likewise, the Baptist has every right to expect *tolerance* from
the Mormon, but it would be shameful indeed if the Mormon were to *approve*
of the Baptist’s religious doctrines: it would be an admission, in fact,
that the Mormon’s supposedly fundamental beliefs are nothing more than a
sham.

When advocates of a religious system or an alternative family arrangement
demand our *tolerance*, they have Dr. Boli’s heartfelt support. When they
demand our *approval*, however, they are asking for something to which they
have no right. Dr. Boli has lived a long life, and he has seen many changes
in the world, but he has still not been able to bring himself to *approve*
of Presbyterians.

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My response to Alexandre, when he connects Free software to other values,
is that we must extend tolerance, as understood above, to each other for
the GHM to be a success. For example, I'm willing to work on Free software
with someone who does not approve of my inter-racial marriage, as long as
they are tolerant.


On Wed, Aug 27, 2014 at 2:34 AM, Thien-Thi Nguyen <[email protected]> wrote:

> () Thien-Thi Nguyen <ttn-mXXj517/[email protected]>
> () Wed, 20 Aug 2014 08:23:08 +0200
>
>    But, this code is buggy.
>
> Silly programmer!
>
>    What is the bug (as discerned from this discussion)?
>
> Why stop at one?!
>
>    What was the fix?  What is the long-term fix if any?
>
> Oh stop this condescending spew, you feckless fool!
>
> OK, i see i have stumbled incompetently into the conversation, and
> not really helped it along in any sense, so forget all that noise.
>
> But OTOH...  all that noise has intent on transmit and consequence
> on receive, like all communication.  Whatever the intent, it is
> possible that the consequence for some reader could be offense.
>
> For example, years ago i would have taken offense at the usage of
> C instead of (say) Emacs Lisp, and even now, re-reading the func i
> (kind of, sort of, when in a severe mood) take offense at the
> syntax error (broken type decl for ‘coolness’).  In both cases,
> the offense manifests as the thought "How dare ttn do ACTION!?"
> followed by unflattering mutterings, etc.  In both cases, the
> offense arises from previous negative experiences (w/ C, w/ public
> stupidity) that i expect ttn to be thoughtful about (especially
> when communicating w/ ME!) but end up feeling disappointed with.
> One or two screwups, no worries; repeated transgressions: GRRRR.
>
> Anyway, i had imagined writing a long exposition reflecting on my
> (partial) role as transmitter in this thread, including grotesque
> personal memories illustrating how foolish i was (and am wont to
> be), but who wants to waste time reading such self-centered crud?
>
> Instead, i take the opportunity to underline the key point made by
> Jim Blandy (as i understand it, YMMV, please correct me if i'm not
> Getting It), that an effective working relationship requires focus
> on core shared values, but that doesn't mean that divisive factors
> should be overlooked entirely.  Rather, they should be weighted
> less, like sliding the alpha value of an object (in Inkscape) to
> less than 100%, but definitely more than 0%.
>
> That's the ideal, which is underspecified.  Which brings us back
> to the ideal GHM organization strategy, which was likewise, until
> very late, underspecified.  Perhaps ‘cool_meeting_p’ can be
> improved in these ways:
>
>  - (maybe :-D) use a Lisp already
>  - don't "fail fast" (don't fail at all)
>  - for well-behavedness, call a func, and pass context
>  - redesign w/ scalar (non-boolean) rv
>
> Generally, i think slack should be considered a core shared value.
> I find it easy to conjure (for other GNU hackers), when i keep in
> mind how we all suffer from proprietary software and its mindset.
>
> --
> Thien-Thi Nguyen
>    GPG key: 4C807502
>    (if you're human and you know it)
>       read my lisp: (responsep (questions 'technical)
>                                (not (via 'mailing-list)))
>                      => nil
>

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