cornel <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > In the short while when young Goan men and women > were "unconstrained" in London by the beady eyes > of their parents, often carrying their old caste > baggage with them, I am aware that romances across > old divides blossomed.
Cornel, I amazes me that just a generation ago, most Goans would marry only someone chosen/okayed by their parents. My mom always points out how unfair it must have been for the first generation of "educated women" who, despite being able to earn enough to support any partner they chose, were not allowed to marry the person they were in love with. My reply to her, every time, is that these "educated women" had only obtained a degree and not an "education." > Thankfully, some village caste associations are now > low on social attendance as the young people are > increasingly integrated into cosmopolitan London, > and not only NOT marrying within the community (let > alone within the Goa village affiliation of their > parents), but are doing so well outside such > old constraints. Yep, same thing in Toronto. Once a women has a good education under her belt and knows that she is fully capable of caring for a family on her own, she is not going to be constricted to marrying "a Goan boy from a good family." Nor is she going take abuse from a spouse for very long. Mervyn3.0 PS. Strangely enough, my wife insists that she was looking for someone crazy so that she could "live." She gave up a job in sunny Silicon Valley, moved to Canada and has decided that she does not have to work again. I am still trying to figure out who is the love fool in the family. __________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail.yahoo.com _______________________________________________ Goanet mailing list Goanet@lists.goanet.org http://lists.goanet.org/listinfo.cgi/goanet-goanet.org