Envy and jealousy These powerful emotions can be source of inspiration or destruction It is difficult to isolate them in practice and are like cause and effect relationship. The person feeling jealous may often feel envious. The control and sublimation of these emotions can spur well being or can be source of immense harm. The first attempt is to recognize them as germane to all individuals and then suitably, consciously refine to nip the negative effects on our personality and behaviour.
We covet what some one else possess or enjoys and we lack or secretly desire, but can nothing about it, as it is beyond our reach, like beauty, personality traits, intelligence, colour,wealth,social standing, a wife, car, house etc It could be just any one near or far in relationship, or material possession viz our friend, neighbor, own sibling enemy .The other person may not be even remotely aware of our feelings, of inferiority,and inadequacy but is safe from such mental and physical . One is thus dissatisfied with his own current state in relation with the other whom one perceives The reaction may not be harmful when internally we merely rationalize about his maintenance of car, house, wife etc Positively envy can drive the person to strive hard and own or develop what he lacks. Better approach is to genuinely appreciate. recognize and acknowledge the other, feel happy for him and with him and express happiness. .In negativity one tries to destroy the others peace of mind with physical or mental harm in resentment or hatred and frustration. It is akin to self consuming poison and wishing the death of envied person. This stage of envy is most undesirable that can cause serious consequences to both Jealousy on the other hand is an emotion of fear of losing something one already has and is threatened that it will be taken away. by third person .Hence it is three person situations primarily applying to relationships eg Afraid of losing your beautiful wife to your close friend The response can be anger, revenge, vengeance It will move from mere wish to harmful plan to destroy the bearer, as one is unable to withstand the prospects. The extreme sense of possessiveness of holding tightly what one already has usually about person romantic relationship and attributes and fear of losing something or someone that was within you that unsettles. Jealousy is believing that someone close has something that you do not have but deserve that by right and which manifests as sadness ,disgust, feeling of insecurity, concern, anxiety and finally erupts into anger and fear. Many a murder, criminal behavior,is the root cause involving love triangles Jealousy cam lead into destructive, harmful planning and execution Jealous person can lose balance in rational thinking and emotional outbursts of dangerous levels An envious person, if emotion is not channelized becomes extremely jealous and can go to any length to take revenge and vengeance in cases like failed promotions., love affairs, rankings in competitive activities Both the emotions can inspire us to achieve what we desire and consciously lower our anger not to retaliate ,but accept the reality with positive outlook I am envious because you are intelligent, but jealous because I could have that promotion that was within my reach but missed it by a whisker. Reconciliation and acceptance can eliminate or at least lower the level of revenge and anger Nelson Lopes Chinchinim
