TRUE, Roland. And, a quality, and yes, a grace that is extremely hard for most Goans to relate to, also.
Venantius J Pinto <http://www.avg.com/email-signature?utm_medium=email&utm_source=link&utm_campaign=sig-email&utm_content=webmail> Virus-free. www.avg.com <http://www.avg.com/email-signature?utm_medium=email&utm_source=link&utm_campaign=sig-email&utm_content=webmail> <#DAB4FAD8-2DD7-40BB-A1B8-4E2AA1F9FDF2> On Thu, Jan 10, 2019 at 1:14 PM Roland Francis <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi Nelson, when you talk about abstract notions of envy and jealousy, if > you want to connect readers with the map into which you are leading them, > you must put in some everyday Goan experiences to prove your point or else > those ideas will just blow in the wind. > > Regards. > > Roland > Toronto. > > > > On Jan 9, 2019, at 11:22 PM, Nelson Lopes <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > Envy and jealousy > > > > These powerful emotions can be source of inspiration or destruction It is > > difficult to isolate them in practice and are like cause and effect > > relationship. The person feeling jealous may often feel envious. The > > control and sublimation of these emotions can spur well being or can be > > source of immense harm. The first attempt is to recognize them as germane > > to all individuals and then suitably, consciously refine to nip the > > negative effects on our personality and behaviour. > > > > We covet what some one else possess or enjoys and we lack or secretly > > desire, but can nothing about it, as it is beyond our reach, like beauty, > > personality traits, intelligence, colour,wealth,social standing, a wife, > > car, house etc It could be just any one near or far in relationship, or > > material possession viz our friend, neighbor, own sibling enemy .The > other > > person may not be even remotely aware of our feelings, of > > inferiority,and inadequacy but is safe from such mental and physical . > > One is thus dissatisfied with his own current state in relation with the > > other whom one perceives The reaction may not be harmful when internally > > we merely rationalize about his maintenance of car, house, wife etc > > Positively envy can drive the person to strive hard and own or develop > what > > he lacks. Better approach is to genuinely appreciate. recognize and > > acknowledge the other, feel happy for him and with him and express > > happiness. .In negativity one tries to destroy the others peace of mind > > with physical or mental harm in resentment or hatred and frustration. It > is > > akin to self consuming poison and wishing the death of envied person. > > This stage of envy is most undesirable that can cause serious > consequences > > to both > > > > Jealousy on the other hand is an emotion of fear of losing something one > > already has and is threatened that it will be taken away. by third > person > > .Hence it is three person situations primarily applying to relationships > eg > > Afraid of losing your beautiful wife to your close friend The response > can > > be anger, revenge, vengeance It will move from mere wish to harmful plan > to > > destroy the bearer, as one is unable to withstand the prospects. The > > extreme sense of possessiveness of holding tightly what one already has > > usually about person romantic relationship and attributes and fear of > > losing something or someone that was within you that unsettles. > > > > Jealousy is believing that someone close has something that you do not > have > > but deserve that by right and which manifests as sadness ,disgust, > > feeling of insecurity, concern, anxiety and finally erupts into anger and > > fear. Many a murder, criminal behavior,is the root cause involving love > > triangles Jealousy cam lead into destructive, harmful planning and > > execution Jealous person can lose balance in rational thinking and > > emotional outbursts of dangerous levels > > > > An envious person, if emotion is not channelized becomes extremely > jealous > > and can go to any length to take revenge and vengeance in cases like > failed > > promotions., love affairs, rankings in competitive activities > > > > Both the emotions can inspire us to achieve what we desire and > consciously > > lower our anger not to retaliate > > > > ,but accept the reality with positive outlook I am envious because you > are > > intelligent, but jealous because I could have that promotion that was > > within my reach but missed it by a whisker. Reconciliation and acceptance > > can eliminate or at least lower the level of revenge and anger > > Nelson Lopes Chinchinim >
