For the non-Muslims from a Canadian Lady
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=25771
I am no scholar, and I am new to Islam (about a month)
But one of the biggest things that I like to discuss are in fact women's
rights in Islam.
There are many questions I have received from friends and family members
since my conversion and most of them have been related to this topic.
Some of the main questions from people who know little about Islam were:
"Won't your husband be oppressive, and isn't the hijab oppressive? Wont your
husband beat you?"
Please, ladies, know your rights in Islam! Men are not allowed to beat women
in Islam. In fact IF they DO touch you, they can't even leave a mark on your
skin, there should not even be a red mark (you know, that fades away in
seconds).
The hijab is a woman's choice, it is not forced upon them. Anyone that forces
their women to wear it is ruled by culture, and not by Islam.
Most women make the choice to wear hijab because it FREES them from oppression.
Do you truly think a half naked woman sitting on a car to SELL the car is not
oppression? Women being used as sexual objects? A woman in hijab is looked at
with the highest respect, and for her mind, and not her beauty.
About men being allowed 4 wives. Do you think a woman would really want four
husbands? Would YOU want 4 husbands to take care of at the end of the day?!
It¡¯s hard enough caring for one! (laundry, dinner, ETC)
The whole reason behind men being allowed 4 wives is for social needs. In the
times of the Prophet (peace be upon him) there was a lot of war. Men would
leave their wives and kids and not return home. What were these women supposed
to do to care for her family? There was no social support in those days.
Everything about Islam is an answer to a problem. You don't see too many Muslim
men taking more than one wife these days because he has to treat each one
equally. That means, a house for each wife, he has to spend the same amount of
time with each wife, therefore you have to be WELL OFF in order to do this. And
in fact, while polygamy is allowed, even Allah SWT in the Quran says one is
better.
Another question I get is this "If a father dies, why the son gets more than
the daughter? In the Quran, it says that the son is to receive double of what
the daughter would get. HOW IS THIS FAIR???¡± Well I will tell you how it is
fair. The Quran also says that the son must care for all the women in his
family until his sisters are married, and if the mother doesn't remarry it is
the son's responsibility to care for her entirely, just as his father did. That
means, any money that he received, he will likely not see a penny of it for
himself after he cares for his sisters and mother. ALSO the money the daughter
receives is her in its entirety. While the son is paying for her living
expenses and food, the money she gets, she may spend on whatever she likes, it
is hers and nobody can touch it. Now does that seem fair?
How about women in Islam that don't have jobs and slave away at home. Well,
that is the woman's choice. A woman can either work, or stay at home and care
for her children. Since it is the man's duty to provide for his family, the
woman usually prefers to watch her kids grow, then to have them in daycare
while she makes money. If she does decide to work however, any of the money she
makes is hers to spend on whatever she likes, and she does not have to put a
single penny of it towards the household.
Women in Islam are seen as more precious then diamonds and pearls. We are
held high. It is US that carry life inside of us for 9 months, it is us that
raise the children.
Allah (SWT) gives men and women equality or rights. We as women however are
not the same as men. Men were made to be able to provide for a family, to be
strong in times of need, to be the king of the home. But as history tells this
story, No king can run a country without a right hand. No palace can stand
without a pillar. We my sister, are the pillars for our men.
I am sorry for going on like this, May Allah guide you to the truth. Aameen.
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"Every honest Jew who knows the history of his people cannot but feel a deep
sense of gratitude to Islam, which has protected the Jews for fifty
generations, while the Christian world persecuted the Jews and tried many times
by the sword to get them to abandon their faith." (Uri Avnery, a Jewish
Journalist)
"Nay we might rationally ask, did any set of human beings ever really think
the man they saw there standing beside them a god, the maker of this world?
Perhaps not: it was usually some man they remembered, or had seen." (Thomas
Carlyle)
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