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Assalamulaikum,
Today there is a new syndrome among Malaysian teenagers,"What the hell
parents are for, money is enough" syndrome.Doctors have reported that it is
very widespread among the teeagers aged 10 to 19 in the highly developed
parts of Malaysia and it is spreading by word of mouth to everywhere.They
have
concluded that working parents are responsible for this syndrome.
We spend 8 hours minimum sometimes 14,16 even 18 hours at work.We spend a
big deal of time there.Sometimes we forget why we go to work in the first
place.Originally many people go to work to earn a living but end up making
work life it self.Some people end up with office romances, some end up
divorced, some end up with a drug adict child, but most end up in old folks
home with no one to visit living a lonely golden age.
Family originally a very important aspect of life becomes a burden at the
end.And work cannot compensate for family.
The WTHPAFMIE syndrome.
Children are people you have accidentaly sired during enjoying sex.They make
too much noise and ask too many question and they did not come with an
operational manual.You do not know how to deal with them and do not have the
time to figure out how to deal with them.You have too much work to do to
waste time on them.
Wife becomes a nagging person who demands too much from you and never
understands your work ,sometimes you have sex with her.
Husband is the man who comes back at 1 am sweaty and smelly and buyes you
jewelery 13 times a year,sometimes you have sex with him.
Work is where you feel at home.Home is is too much to work on.
This is a breif description of the "What the hell parents are for, money is
enough" syndrome from a parents point of view.
This sydrome originaly was from the western world, but found its way here by
paradigm shifts in working culture in the early 80's.When the paradigm
shifts came in the early 80's working men and women were asked ( not
literaly) to make the working place their familes and work thier home.They
were asked to do more than their jobs and end up living a life at the work
place.
Unfortunately human beings need a family and ended up adopting the opposite
sex in the work place to become their meaningfull spouse.Then came the issue
of family separation, second wives( remember second wives I wrote earlier)
and "men at work" who working woman sometimes have.
Then in the late eighties this spread in to the manufacturing sector in
malaysia and the influx of foreign girls from Indonesia and Philiphines made
it all happen.There were literaly tens of thousands of married professional
Malaysian men who needed companionship at work, who took advantage lonely
and desperate for social life girls, as a convienient replacement for thier
the exaushted working professional jobs spouses.
These girls who are thousands of miles away from home and are cooped up in
hostels, were easy preys for the Malaysian men.They were young and wanted to
see the world, this men gave them a more then they asked for.Malaysian men
took advantage in every possible situation of this poor foregin girls who
came here to earn a decent living.It was an unfair situation for both the
girls and the men's family.Both of them were being cheated out of life it
self.
Sometimes they did even have to leave the working place to experience family
life.It could be all done on the manufacturing floor while working late into
the night.
When this happened work become enjoyable and family at home a burden.And
many made working late and excuse to live with another partner at work.
The family ended up as the big loser, while the company while not losing
thier own families, made fat profits out of this.The paradigm shift(=shit)
of making you company your family really worked.
Moral of this story, it is unislamic to deprive your family of anything
rightfully theirs, and in Islam the best among you are those who are good
towards the family.Being good has a lot more to do than just material well
being.Talking and spending time with them is very important, if you do not
talk to them today maybe twenty years down the road they do not even want to
see your face once a year.
And to be fair the pursuit of too much material well being is what made the
sad state of the family instuition in Malaysia. The western world has made
mistake in this matter, maybe we can avoid their mistakes by not following
their way.
PS. Anybody who defends sacrifising family for company must from company
management.
All that which is good comes from Allah swt, the erors are mine alone.
Wasallam.
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From: Adam <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Date: Monday, 6 March 2000 5:37
Subject: H-Net* Kisah Benar :Office Romance Yang Tak Menjadi
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>Assalamualaikum
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>Ini satu cerita dari seorang boss tentang office
>romance..unedited version...
>Kalau rajin sila la bagi komen untuk kebaikan semua...
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>Wassalam
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>Adam
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>--XXX wrote:
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>> Assalamualaikum Sdr Adam.
>>
>> Huumm...interesting juga "persoalan" yang u utarakan
>> ni. Seems that u
>> get a lot of these responses eh? Boleh buat
>> part-time marriage
>> counselling lepas ni..he..he..he.
>> Actually, I tak lah pandai sangat nak beri nasihat
>> kepada persoalan
>> yang u dah utarakan tu. But, I would like to share a
>> somewhat similar
>> story to what u've posted. I trust u to keep my
>> identity anonymous.
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