On 9/20/07, Laree Shulman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > We should try and agree to disagree in a pleasant manner, and if we do > > lose our temper, what could we do? > > > Yes, Janice, even though it's really hard sometimes, I think we all > need to try to stay on the high road, becasue sometimes the people we > alienate are the ones that need us most (and I'm not just talkiing > about this list) I try to be kind in all my dealings with people and > animals but sometimes a button is pushed and it's impossible to not be > a little snide and maybe hostile. After I do that, though, I always > feel crappy because I think this might be a person that really needed > me to approach them in a calm, reasonable manner to help them > understand. Also, though, I realize a lot of social change has only > come about because people have been willing to put it all on the line. > It's a hard balancing act but the struggle is worth it if you can > help bring about change for the good-- let's all just keep striving to > find the way.
During the last nasty go-round, Dawn posted somtething that I thought was extremely wise--she said that before she hits the send button, she gives some thought to how her reply sounds to someone else: if it would sound nasty or snippy in person, it would sound at least that bad online. Since then, I've tried to maintain the same attitude. I've noticed that Judy does the same--she is always patient and calm with people, even those that are nasty. I've seen her be firm but fair, just as we should be with our horses too. And Robyn H. seems to stay out of the bickering and simply offer her knowledge. So how about we all treat each other as we strive to do with our horses--fairly, kindly but firmly when necessary, and leave the egos at the door. Robyn S -- Life is as dear to the mute creature as it is to man. Just as one wants happiness and fears pain, just as one wants to live and not to die, so do other creatures. ~ The Dalai Lama
