yes oddly un-adult. But its like my friend Sylvia says... we ride with people and two of them in the last five years lost a teenage son each. One is a total almost psycho, just goes off in hysteria at something like a snake on the trail or something. The other is just totally maudlin depressed about 98% of the time. Me and Sylvia feel like, hey, who knows what we would be like in that cicumstance and try not to judge. but we ride with others who say "is so and so invited? Cause if they are I'm not coming" and we used to try and acommodate and work around all that stupid stuff but now Sylvia says "life is too short for that" so we just invite whoever and let them work it out. If they wanna come, fine, if they dont, fine. Nobody is asking anybody to get married or anything, i mean, heck, its a two-three hour ride for goodness sake not a lifetime committment. Janice
-- even good horses have bad days sometimes.
