Hi Julie,
Dear, you are a pregnant lady. . .I will repeat Maureen's advice. Be good to yourself. Enjoy these quiet days with DD before the new baby comes. If I may give you my thoughts on 'accountability', what I have learned is that it's easier to get to a task than it is to beat myself up for not getting it done. Easier on your emotions and your self esteem. And if you can't do it (because you're beat or you choose to spend time on other things) - let it go.
I periodically whine and rant about how unfair my life is. A job with too many responsibilities, this big house to maintain with no help. A single parent etc. That whining won't change my circumstances a bit. I will still be overworked, single and parenting AND unattractively whiney to boot. . . In 12 step recovery we are asked to let go of what we cannot change. We are asked to change what we can. Know the difference. Look at what you can change. Change it. Is it the baby's crib? Change that. Just that one thing. Is it the living room? Pick it up, change that one thing. And what can you let go of? What can you accept as being out of your hands right now.
I have learned to be accountable to the life I have, to the mess in the kitchen, to the piles of writing to be done, to the children to be chauffered places. The life I spent my time wishing I had, didn't come any closer because I wanted it. It only came closer when I started dealing with what was in front of me. Year after year life continues to hold it's share of clutter and chaos. We can resent it or we can deal with it. Clean the laundry, put boundaries around how others treat us, toss out the bags of trash. It's our life, the only one we have, and I don't think any of us should spend more time than necessary feeling guilty or bad about it. Change what you can. Let go of what you can't. And use this time to anticipate your new baby with joy.
blessings,
Rebecca
- [JFC]: Maureen and Rebecca Morguena
