Louise, I am in aweeee of your dh decluttering. It is something that I wonder sometimes if my dh even knows the meaning of. He is such a pacrat. I have to get rid of things when he is not around. Try to see what will be in the end and not what is right now. I know easier said than done.
Sherry in FL On Mon, 11 Mar 2002 21:23:22 -0000 "Louise.king" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> writes: > Hello all > > Dh is decluttering. This is good, very good, but I will admit it is > causing > a lot of mess. > > He started in the loft (attic), then began on the storage room and > now he is > into cupboards and areas that he hasn't been into in a long time. > He's even > been into his wardrobe (closet) and drawers. > > He has got to the stage where he has created more mess than he > started with > and is at the 'despondent' stage. > > He's thrown out loads of stuff, on average he has taken three car > loads of > stuff to the dump to be thrown away since the 1st of March. Six car > loads > have gone to charity in the last week alone. > > When he suggested we had a car boot sale (garage sale) I was quick > to > suggest that it would be less work and less time consuming to just > donate > the stuff. He thought about it for a couple of days and then read my > essay > on 'garage sales' and decided to just donate the stuff. 'Too much > like hard > work' was his comment. > > He is doing really well, I am proud of him. Its very strange to > watch him go > through the process, to know exactly what he is feeling and how > difficult it > is, I want to 'step in' all the time and give advice, encouragement > and help > but as I remember the difficulties of the process I have only > offered it > when it has been asked for. > > I will admit there isn't a room in our house that hasn't been > affected. > There are piles every where. Only DH knows which ones are which and > where > they are going. I try not to disturb the piles and not to comment > too much > on the mess. I have been cleaning around them when DH is out. > > I also realise that this decluttering is a reaction to the current > 'predicament' he finds himself in. He is on 'Garden leave' which > basically > means the his job ends at the end of this month but for this month > he > doesn't have to actually go to work although they are still paying > him. He > hasn't as yet got a new job to go to. He did have but it fell > through at the > last moment. So I deduced that the decluttering is a 'reaction', he > is > controlling his life in the best way he can. > > There are many reasons why we declutter and many things that start > us on the > Journey from clutter. I do not know which one is best, if any are. I > am just > thankful that he has started. I had to be 'mortally embarrassed' to > start my > journey from clutter. > > At the present moment in time DH is part way through decluttering > his stuff > in: > > the attic > the bedroom > the cupboards in the living room (family room) > the workshop > the garden shed > the conservatory > and last but by no means least the Kitchen. > > As I said before there are piles in every room, as well as bags and > boxes. > The attic has 50% less stuff in it than before he started and all > the other > rooms in the house are filling up fast. Its a difficult time for > both of us. > > > Personally I feel a little annoyed that the space I fought so > valiantly to > conquer has over night been lost to clutter, but the other half of > me > recognises that there is a process going on and all I have to do is > wait, be > patient (not my strongest talent) and all will be well in the end. I > just > hope that DH finishes the task before he gets discouraged and gives > up... > been there, know how awful that feels. > > There is one room of my house that is, for the moment, unaffected. > Its my > computer/office/craft room, to which I have been escaping a lot in > the last > couple of days. He would have to be really desperate to even try and > put > stuff in here LOL. > > Trouble is, all this advice about getting it out of the house the > fastest > way possible, donating stuff rather than selling it, makes me look > at my box > of books that I currently have at auction and wonder should I just > let the > auctions lapse and tote the whole lot down to the charity shop with > DHs next > load? Just goes to show, when its someone else's stuff its easier to > offer > advice than when it belongs to you..... > > Louise > Seriously cluttered in England !!! > ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/web/. *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Journey from clutter List Website http://journeyfromclutter.com Members Only Page http://journeyfromclutter.com/MembersOnly/MembersArea.htm Unsubscribe: email [EMAIL PROTECTED] with the word 'unsubscribe' in the 'Subject:' field to be removed from the main list. To Unsubscribe from the Digest version of the list send the unsubscribe message to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
