Hi Sherry, Getting rid of your hubby's stuff while he isn't around? That's not terribly ethical, is it now? What if, during such a clean-up mission, you end up throwing away, let's say, the telephone number of a potentially important business contact?\
I'm a journalist, and during the Xmas holidays, my son's mother (up from the coast for a brief period) happened to be in my apartment. She couldn't bear the mess around her (understandably) and started cleaning up. Problem is, she threw away valuable notes for an article with which I'm busy, which has left me in "that" creek without the proverbial paddle. Her intentions were noble - the outcome, disastrous... Regards, Tat P.S. I'm new to the support group, so: "Hi all! I'm from Johannesburg, South Africa, and I'm a clutterholic..." I look forward to a mutually beneficial association with all members. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Sherry B Worth" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: 12 March 2002 00:37 Subject: [JFC]: Louise---DH is decluttering Yippee .... or is it Arrrrrrggggghhhh ??? > Louise, > > I am in aweeee of your dh decluttering. It is something that I wonder > sometimes if my dh even knows the meaning of. He is such a pacrat. I > have to get rid of things when he is not around. Try to see what will be > in the end and not what is right now. I know easier said than done. > > Sherry in FL > > On Mon, 11 Mar 2002 21:23:22 -0000 "Louise.king" > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> writes: > > Hello all > > > > Dh is decluttering. This is good, very good, but I will admit it is > > causing > > a lot of mess. > > > > He started in the loft (attic), then began on the storage room and > > now he is > > into cupboards and areas that he hasn't been into in a long time. > > He's even > > been into his wardrobe (closet) and drawers. > > > > He has got to the stage where he has created more mess than he > > started with > > and is at the 'despondent' stage. > > > > He's thrown out loads of stuff, on average he has taken three car > > loads of > > stuff to the dump to be thrown away since the 1st of March. Six car > > loads > > have gone to charity in the last week alone. > > > > When he suggested we had a car boot sale (garage sale) I was quick > > to > > suggest that it would be less work and less time consuming to just > > donate > > the stuff. He thought about it for a couple of days and then read my > > essay > > on 'garage sales' and decided to just donate the stuff. 'Too much > > like hard > > work' was his comment. > > > > He is doing really well, I am proud of him. Its very strange to > > watch him go > > through the process, to know exactly what he is feeling and how > > difficult it > > is, I want to 'step in' all the time and give advice, encouragement > > and help > > but as I remember the difficulties of the process I have only > > offered it > > when it has been asked for. > > > > I will admit there isn't a room in our house that hasn't been > > affected. > > There are piles every where. Only DH knows which ones are which and > > where > > they are going. I try not to disturb the piles and not to comment > > too much > > on the mess. I have been cleaning around them when DH is out. > > > > I also realise that this decluttering is a reaction to the current > > 'predicament' he finds himself in. He is on 'Garden leave' which > > basically > > means the his job ends at the end of this month but for this month > > he > > doesn't have to actually go to work although they are still paying > > him. He > > hasn't as yet got a new job to go to. He did have but it fell > > through at the > > last moment. So I deduced that the decluttering is a 'reaction', he > > is > > controlling his life in the best way he can. > > > > There are many reasons why we declutter and many things that start > > us on the > > Journey from clutter. I do not know which one is best, if any are. I > > am just > > thankful that he has started. I had to be 'mortally embarrassed' to > > start my > > journey from clutter. > > > > At the present moment in time DH is part way through decluttering > > his stuff > > in: > > > > the attic > > the bedroom > > the cupboards in the living room (family room) > > the workshop > > the garden shed > > the conservatory > > and last but by no means least the Kitchen. > > > > As I said before there are piles in every room, as well as bags and > > boxes. > > The attic has 50% less stuff in it than before he started and all > > the other > > rooms in the house are filling up fast. Its a difficult time for > > both of us. > > > > > > Personally I feel a little annoyed that the space I fought so > > valiantly to > > conquer has over night been lost to clutter, but the other half of > > me > > recognises that there is a process going on and all I have to do is > > wait, be > > patient (not my strongest talent) and all will be well in the end. I > > just > > hope that DH finishes the task before he gets discouraged and gives > > up... > > been there, know how awful that feels. > > > > There is one room of my house that is, for the moment, unaffected. > > Its my > > computer/office/craft room, to which I have been escaping a lot in > > the last > > couple of days. He would have to be really desperate to even try and > > put > > stuff in here LOL. > > > > Trouble is, all this advice about getting it out of the house the > > fastest > > way possible, donating stuff rather than selling it, makes me look > > at my box > > of books that I currently have at auction and wonder should I just > > let the > > auctions lapse and tote the whole lot down to the charity shop with > > DHs next > > load? Just goes to show, when its someone else's stuff its easier to > > offer > > advice than when it belongs to you..... > > > > Louise > > Seriously cluttered in England !!! > > > > > ________________________________________________________________ > GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! > Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! > Join Juno today! 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