will > Bottom line, if you can't financially support children then you should not have them....If you can't raise them and support them without the help of any one else, don't have them....Sure there are exceptions but you can't overburden our society with too many of those either.<
this is not meant as a personal attack...i take issue with many of your statements...some of which are quite controversial...so what did you expect? we don't live in a world where one's financial future can be predicted...we don't live in a world where both partners always take equal responsiblity in the emotional, financial, physical, spirtitual raising of a child...it is not always easy to predict how someone will fare as a parent...i have been completely suprised by how some who i felt would not be a such great parent, turned out to be superb & likewise the reverse... we live in a world where a spouse or partner can easily leave the entire responsibility of child raising to the other person...woman are in the vast majority of those who are left with this responsibility but sometimes it is men who are left... for years my work has given me the great honor of working with single parents who are struggling to make better lives for themselves & their children (& btw, are very successful doing so) & i see how the small amount of public assistance they receive for a limited time (not enough to live very easily on) is a stepping stone to a second chance in life for themselves & for their children...i see this issue on a personal level, in thousands & thousands of lives...& from what i have experienced..public assistance (welfare) is often a wonderful investment...in addition, there is also a large population of working poor families which is a whole other, very real issue. many people have misconceptions of the welfare system & those who are helped by it...in addition the overall amount of funds that go towards these programs are much smaller than those that go to assisting corporate 'welfare'... (i am sorry that i don't have the numbers readily available on this anymore) ... if anyone is concerned with "overburdening society", this would be a great place to start... >In general, children should be a burden to no one but their parents.< i prefer to use the word responsibiliy, i doubt most parents, no matter how hard their struggle, would ever call their children a burden...i actually prefer to use the word to describe raising children as a 'gift' >In my opinion, if your going to have kids, you better be better than average, because often times just average doesn't cut it.< so is there some little test one can take for this, or perhaps one can just assess one's ability to be 'better than average'? (insert sarcasm) >Sorry Kate, there is nothing "cold or cruel" about that (and the word "holy" has nothing to do with it either).< if you go back to my post you will see that the above statement refered to the snipping solution...perhaps you were not reading closely enough? (more sarcasm) ******************************************** Kate Bennett: www.katebennett.com Sponsored by Polysonics/Atlantis Sound Labs Over the Moon- "bringing the melancholy world of twilight to life almost like magic" All Music Guide ********************************************
