Hi Sarah, yes I'm sure you're right that this is what the film meant to say,
but I feel it was made too easy!
I've been in that situation several times, and yes sometimes somebody hopped
conveniently onto my path to cheer me up, but sometimes they didn't, not for
a long time, or those who hopped were really irritating and irrelevant!
That's when I learned, at last, to not depend on those external rescuers, to
find the strength within myself - or if you like, within everything, all the
small things of life.
That's what I would have liked the film to deal with. Not that Juliet
should never find a new love, but he should not have been that conveniently
there. I would have liked to see her cope without him, or see him turn out
disappointing, weak, superficial after a while, so that she has to face the
comparison again, and still go on... you know, all those things that happen
in real life...
Lieve.
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Lieve, I suppose what the film's trying to say is that the 'nothing
compares' feeling is a mis-memory, and that eventually something
(e.g. the hopping man, who I think just represents the passage of
time) will make you realize that. And all you can do until then is
hang on and believe you'll get over it eventually. You don't learn
to be strong on your own. You just stop needing to be so strong.
Something like that. . . ;-)
Sarah
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What I wanted to see, was: how do you REALLY cope with
grief? When it really keeps hurting without surprise solutions,
when you
don't have a deus ex machine hopping along? How do you learn to be
strong
ON YOUR OWN or just with some pretty average people around you to
give
pretty average support? How to snap yourself out of that "nothing
compares"
despair...
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