Susan and Arlene, I just want to make it clear my therapist was *very* educated on the grieving process. She had been highly recommended, and I went to her because I wanted to *heal*, and she helped me very much.
I am glad you were helped Jimmy and the following is not a criticsim of you.
i have heard 'professionals' say some pretty stupid things and this 1 mth per year thing is right up there with the stupidest.
The end of a relationship of 22 years by death, and you get 22 mths to grieve? 30 years and you have 30mths, ie 2.5 yrs?
Or you lose your 6 year old child and your done in 6mths?
Sounds more like wishful thinking than anything else.
You, tho, are correct-pain and loss are part of life and we must learn to deal with it-in our own individual ways. what works for one is not going to work for another.And some things are never dealt with but lived with. And that is okay as long as you do LIVE despite the baggage.
bw
colin
