Hey Jimmy, First of all I am very happy you were able to heal and that you got what you needed to out of therapy.
Thankfully I had been in therapy for years with a superb woman. Of course once I had to support the heroin addiction of my lover's, I had to stop my own therapy due to finances. NEVER again, but once upon a time.... But still I retained enough, to work through it, slow as it was. And you are correct, finding hope or having it as unfounded as it may be many days, is what kept me alive. But I NEVER could have achieved that in 6 months. We were soulmates, as over used as that term is these days. And I wet through a living hell, financially, emotionally and physically. We were together 6 years almost to the day she died. I still object to her timetable, but I understand that whatever gets you through your grief is all good. I can say that after that first year of living on the edge, and then finding all of you, may have been the best therapy for me. I know I have been kind of reborn here and yet Robin is still a big of who I am. Not to mention the part of me that died with her. It's all good now, it's all a part of my fabric. As a reverend said Sunday at a service for a friend who passed last week, "death IS a part of life." It gets easier and easier to deal with. Turn turn ... And by the way Jimmy, I wondered why the hell all those blue feathers were hanging off your ass at fest! I figured Smurphy planted them as a prank! ;-D Peace, Susan NPIMH: If happy little bluebirds fly above the rainbow, why oh why ... > Susan and Arlene, I just want to make it clear my therapist was *very* > educated on the grieving process. She had been highly recommended, and I > went to >her because I wanted to *heal*, and she helped me very much. > > The grieving process can be less painful if you try to understand that loss and >grief is a natural part of life. Learn to accept your loss and believe in yourself. > This process isn't for everyone. As I said before, I agree with Mags that > grieving is one's personal journey. My journey (and sessions) finally led to HOPE. I >knew that I would eventually reach a point where remembering would be less painful and I could begin to look ahead to the future and more good times. > > Jimmy, who is so happy now, I have blue jays flying out of my butt Yahoo! Mail Plus - Powerful. Affordable. Sign up now. http://mailplus.yahoo.com
