>>Overall, I thought our conversation was more about GENERALITIES...I do accept that you took my comments as a personal insult, Darice. I don't even know where you live, though, so how can I be talking about you specifically? Again, I'm not saying it didn't feel that way to you, just that it was not my intent to cause you to feel that way.<<
it seemed to me also that debra's & kakki's conversation was on the lighter side compared to other subjects that had been discussed here yet it kind of made me uncomfortable too because of the generalizations involved (i have lived on both east & west coast)... but to others it was not perceived as something light at all... this is so much the point which i trying to make a few days ago!!! certain generalities trigger strong feelings in me, yet i realize no one means to offend & are sometimes perplexed as to why i would feel that way...other generalities trigger strong feelings in others... my observation is that so many communication problems occur when we aren't careful with our words & choose make these kind of careless generalizations about groups of people...when this happens somewhere, somehow, someone is going to take offense... i suppose we all have some things we internally generalize & i don't exclude myself from this, but when communicating, especially in this medium, if we are not careful our words can cause problems for us rather than helping to clarify what we are trying to say... it is always clearer to speak in specifics & from your own experience whenever possible, imo ******************************************** Kate Bennett: www.katebennett.com Sponsored by Polysonics/Atlantis Sound Labs Over the Moon- "bringing the melancholy world of twilight to life almost like magic" All Music Guide ******************************************** "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world, indeed it is the only thing that ever has." Margaret Mead
