It seems quite a few people have got more than a little upset recently
on this list. I have found that surprising as things have been much
worse in the past.
A few observations of the things that have happened recently:
a person offends several people over a period of time, consistently.
they are asked to quit writing privately and they take no notice
whatsoever and the posts keep being sent. So one of their private
messages gets sent to the list. A 'peacekeeper' writes and complains
about it yet does exactly the same thing, with no apology forthcoming.
The person who has been asked to quit writing still keeps on writing to
people who have asked them not to.
Another 'defender' complains about abusive posts, yet is a master at the
abusive post themselves!
Humour is a personal thing, if you don't like it, delete it. however,
there is humour which is not accptable(in my opinion)-that which relies
on putting others down. Some of the humour would not be acceptable at
all if it were about race but as it is only about women(and recently it
has been) it seems to be acceptable.
Generally this is a good list, with good energising discussion. It does
appear to have gone down hill recently. I think the hypocrisy shown by
some posters has not helped, insensitivity by others, and there is
definately something wrong with a person who insists on sending unwanted
mail. I know one person told me they felt harrassed. I understand why!
So why can't we go back to our discussions, even the heated ones? Just
leave out the hypocrisy and personal attacks. That way we can all learn,
all get to express ourselves, and form good relations. It is enriching.
It is only spoiled when the abuse starts flying.
Isn't it easy to see how wars get started?
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bw
colin
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